Ever piss off a recruiter so bad they immediately decline your apology gift card? [Software Developer]
![Ever piss off a recruiter so bad they immediately decline your apology gift card? [Software Developer]](/img/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2Fsmb52w7rtvzy.png)
22 comments · 70% upvoted · source · other discussions
comments
[deleted]
Blinity
I'm not surprised the recruiter declined it. They probably saw it as a bribe and declined it for their own professionalism. It's also common for companies to prohibit their employees from accepting gifts.
Either way, it was extremely naive to think that you can buy gifts for a recruiter. If I were a hiring manager, getting something like this would actually make me think less of you as a candidate. This demonstrates a lack of situational and emotional intelligence.
In the future if you want to apologize, explain the steps you're taking to prevent the problem from happening ever again and leave out any excuses or gifts.
hireThisMarine [OP]
I just got off the phone with my wife, who is a hiring manager, and she said this almost exactly.
When the recruiter implied that I didn't have to worry about their firm cold-calling me again I felt it implied that our professional relationship was over. They sounded pretty upset and I just wanted to let them know that I didn't set out that day with the intention of embarrassing them.
raelepei
Plot twist: /u/Blinity is your wife, and you two just didn't recognize one another.
PlainTrain
If you like pina coladas, and getting jobs in the rain...
[deleted]
Yeah homie but you knew you would have an interview so just wear pants to work that day and throw a nice shirt in the car to wear when you get there. I mean it's all hindsight now so this isn't helpful at all. Hope a better opportunity comes your way and you grab it by the balls rather than potentially flashing it your balls.
MrFunEGUY
What
fbachina
You have got a tough life ahead of you. Holy shit.
Why are you apologizing to a recruiter, or caring about them in the first place?
Most of the recruiters I get on the phone end up being from BS recruiting agencies that always involve the fast-talking charismatic young guy with a "what can I do for you" mentality, and they never lead anywhere.
They are a waste of time.
hireThisMarine [OP] 16 points · May 2017 · Persistent Edge Case
I wore my company polo w/shorts to the interview. I had made it clear that I wouldn't have time to change after I left work and was given the go-ahead to not be in a "suit". My pale, hairy legs were a bridge too far.
I care because they actually connected me with a good opportunity and apologized for their earlier missteps with me. It seemed like a pretty cool job too, in 4 decades of life this is new category of self-sabotage for me.
[deleted] 31 points · May 2017
Yeah...I don't think you should assume you can wear shorts to an interview just because they gave you the go ahead not to wear a suit.
hireThisMarine [OP] 11 points · May 2017 · Persistent Edge Case
For my current job I changed after my shift in the employee bathroom. Freshly buffed shoes, shirt stays and collar stays, monogrammed French-cut shirt, and the tie I wore when I got married with the tip reaching perfectly to the center of the belt I had just bought. At one point in the interview I was asked if I liked Star Trek and showed them that my cuff links were the Starfleet insignia.
This time around I explained that I would have to leave home at 4am to get my shift in before a 3pm interview and that I recently had surgery and some parts take convincing to bend. Meh, oh well. I just thought that the recruiter rejecting my apology was funny and I wanted to share it.
GFandango 20 points · May 2017
Some nerd fuck trying to determine "culture fit".
"It's a no-go boss. He doesn't even play magic the gathering."
hireThisMarine [OP] 6 points · May 2017 · Persistent Edge Case
:-/ My boss is amazing. Star Trek came up in conversation organically and was germaine to the job, we were discussing classifications of satellites / spacecraft. I brought up V'ger when we were discussing preference of "is a"(inheritance) or "has a"(aggregation) relationships, not knowing if he'd get the joke or not.
GFandango 4 points · May 2017
Fair enough. But you bet that scenario I said has happened somewhere else.
AuthorTomFrost 2 points · May 2017
He doesn't even use Linux - just Ubuntu!
bobbytables01 1 points · Jun 2017
I talked with the boss about Rage Against The Machine during the interview (for a front-end web dev) and I got the job and we got along great.
CestMoiIci 1 points · Jun 2017
Yeah, at my current job the last question in the interview was the senior admins asking me deadpan to name the creature that captured Luke on the ice planet Hoth.
Been there for almost three years now
cephalord 3 points · May 2017 · "We went with a better fit"
If you tell them in advance that you won't have time to change out of your work outfit and then they get angry for being in your work outfit they are idiots.
[deleted] 14 points · May 2017
LOL. Dude... Next time just take a day off for the interview. Shorts? SHORTS?! were you interviewing to be a life guard?! Also no you dont apologize to the recruiter with a gift card.
I feel like you could benefit a lot from your local VA and the transition assistance classes they should offer.
hireThisMarine [OP] 5 points · May 2017 · Persistent Edge Case
Thanks for the advice but I'm old enough to know better. It was an unforced error but I don't feel terribly bad about it: for non-emergencies I have to give two week's notice for PTO and here I had only 5 days notice, the site was 50 miles away, and I have a distinct memory of someone saying "as-is" would be fine.
The only thing that felt off at the interview was that I didn't get a haircut the day before.
Blinity 3 points · May 2017
Generally people take a sick day.
I very rarely advocate lying, but you have look out for yourself and doing this is really common. Even the most honest and professional people I know do this.
[deleted] 8 points · May 2017
There's no honesty in business. Honest people get shat on and fired.
Take all them sick days!