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Intimidating aura and authority

238 points · submitted Oct 2020 by u/DarkEngraver

I've been dabbling with SR since September of 2019 thus far I encountered alot of things we know as benefits but in this post I want to tackle the aura and presence you have in a crowd. I work as a security officer currently and have noticed people's reactions change wether I am on SR or not. Due to the nature of my work I encounter daily anything from 100 people to perhaps nearly 1000 so I had plenty,plenty of practice to observe behaviour around me. While off SR or back on a short streak after a relapse my mind is weakened- I may feel slightly anxious,worried,frustrated,bored,angry. It's as if people around me can sense it and they tend to act up more,be rude or just look at me with disdain. While on SR totally different life- I noticed a portion of the people I glance looks at quickly shy away looking down or even tilt their head down looking at the floor. I've seen men,grown men who I'd say were well built,taller than myself(6ft)act flustered and scared when I glance into their eyes just for a brief moment. Initially I thought it was just the job cuz of the uniform and people assuming subconsciously that I can be threatening if they misbehave(I also do weight training for past year and got good newbie gains)but this happens everywhere. I've made it a habit to look people straight in the eyes unless I have to focus my vision elsewhere . I've also noticed women are more likely not to shy away than men,same goes for children.

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EvilZeroSc 113 points · Oct 2020

Your energy is stronger and secure. More masculine and bold. You show this with all of your subconscious body language. This part of yourself communicates to the subconscious part of the brains of other people. That tells them how to respond to you since the subconscious is the automatic mind. People keep saying yes sir to me. Even my own damn bosses. Sometimes it seems annoying because it makes me feel older. But, I just carry a lot of respect for myself. It’s strange when your bosses subjugate themselves to you.

Mikey1344 28 points · Oct 2020

Yes exactly well said. No one can fuck with you on Sr. It's like the exact same way I feel everywhere I go.

[deleted] 8 points · Oct 2020

I've yelled at cars who didn't stop or would drive around me when crossing. Not knowing or caring who was in the car. While not on SR, I am too worried that there may be a psycho in the car and I won't do much besides wave my arms or shake my head.

When I'm on a good SR streak its just natural to yell "IM CROSSING FUCKING IDIOT!!!!" And they always kept driving.

[deleted] 7 points · Oct 2020

It does indeed make you feel older...

oiiOllie 5 points · Oct 2020

Sounds so interesting

arthantar 1 points · Feb 2023

Tell me how

[deleted] 43 points · Oct 2020

I notice average dudes can’t keep eye contact with me at all

Scoobytechno 24 points · Oct 2020

im on S/R for a while. What i did was scare people unsubconciously with my eyes. Strong look. This made me become aware i scare people/familiars, instead of make friends. i purposely avoid too long eye contact especially with my own family (brothers etc.)

you will learn that looking to long in someones eye will scare them.

Btw i only keep looking if they are not friendly by anymeans or just try to intimidate, then yea they will look away first.

[deleted] 16 points · Oct 2020

Oh yeah I definitely mean that. The other day some guy was messing with my friend and I told him and his friends to leave, I didn’t swear at them, or call them names, I just made strong eye contact with the main instigator and he kept breaking eye contact and left with his group. Later the other guy was talking about how he could’ve fought me. They’re all talk when you’re not near them but too scared to even look at you when you’re in front of them.

mtoner26 33 points · Oct 2020

Definitely the aura. Vibrating at a higher frequency. People subconsciously pick up on it and may feel lesser than you. Great reason to keep retaining!

Plus-Potential-9357 2 points · Sep 2025

thats not the only reason to keep retaining to feel superior than others its to better your own life achieve what you have always dreamt of, renounce all materialistic desires get closer to god contenment over accumulation you will then experience true inner peace then its almost impossible to go back to your old ways and remember to keep your ego in check good luck my friend

WarmAnything28 1 points · Sep 2026

He didn’t say it was the only reason. Anyone can use it for whatever reason they want.

sun89prof 21 points · Oct 2020

Remember officer, when you stare at a man for more than 3 seconds, it depicts aggression. The same stare for a woman instantiates attraction. Fine to stare while you're on duty but if you habitually stare at men, pull up your sleeves for some fists and punches. In my initial days I would stare at all and sundry but after 75 days or so, I gave up that habit. Be conscientious and cognizant.

Damianos_X 1 points · Jul 2022

Do you have any close call stories, or did you actually end up throwing down?

sun89prof 13 points · Jul 2022

Close call man. And this was because since I became an adult, or after age 12, I was fapping daily. So I never really understood social dynamics till 28 yrs of age. Hence, when I stopped fapping, I thought that looking ppl in the eye was the norm, as you know SR gives massive self-confidence. But thankfully, no one fought with me. Frankly, I came across threatening to many people I think during those initial days. But now, it's way different

External-Garbage5235 1 points · Sep 2022

You stopped looking at people in the eye in semen retention? This doesnt makes much sense? I would think keeping eye contact is always dominant and a sign of maturity

sun89prof 8 points · Sep 2022

So from what I've experienced, in the initial days of nofap, our eye-contact is usually strong, but as the days pass, it becomes more mellowed down. Even though, I'd suggest that you don't look at anyone in the eye for more than 3 seconds when you're walking down the road or purchasing groceries. However, this rule is exempt when you're speaking with people. Whenever you're speaking with someone, kindly make full eye-contact and keep it till the talk is over. The opposite person will welcome that you've given them full-hearing and appreciate your demeanor. Once the talk is over, suppose you meet that person down the road or in a corridor, just look at him/her, smile a bit and avoid eye-contact for more than 3 seconds. You'll learn that eye-contact works best only when you've got some work with that person. And people will seem friendly rather than hostile if you maintain this attitude.

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[deleted] 3 points · Oct 2020

This sounds great. Keep keeping them in check. Thank you for sharing and thank you for your service!

Have you ever needed to raise the baton against an inmates?

[deleted] 10 points · Oct 2020

True with women and children!

[deleted] 35 points · Oct 2020

Pure shakti energy. You are more of yourself but also more of a man then they are, and they feel it, be you huge or not.

[deleted] 14 points · Oct 2020

I gotta be honest this "more of a man" language seems pretty harmful to me. Every man has this power some use it some don't know they have it but all men are men and all men deserve basic respect and dignity whether their balls are full or not. Comparing ourselves to others is just a symptom of a consciousness divided within itself and it perpetuates division outside of ourselves. Let's perpetuate unity and support for all Men.

[deleted] 27 points · Oct 2020

I don't mean in the traditional sense of balls and muscles, I literally mean the shakti energy. Sadghuru has immense shakti energy but he's not going around pushing anyone. Our very ideas of strength will need to change as well with this awakening.

But going even deeper, I believe the universal energy is divided into masculine and feminine, at it's core. Then all the unique forms, shapes, sizes, energies further subdivide within the same energy. So all men are one, mascculine shakti energy, ranging from strong, weak, confused, dirty, pure etc. The more you have, even unknowingly, the more you are and others sense it, they just don't know why. There's more to it like the aura etc, of course.

[deleted] 4 points · Oct 2020

Got ya! I agree then. Also I wanna point out. I believe masculine energy is shiva and feminine energy is shakti. Neither of which have to do with gender(i assume you get this tho) ✌

[deleted] 7 points · Oct 2020

Nature aint fair boss, it is what it is... we gotta either adapt or perish.

[deleted] 7 points · Oct 2020

Okay imo that adaptation involves moving from competition consciousness to cooperation consciousness. If you wanna stay in the mindset of being "more manly" than others then that's on you as you watch other men join together to make a better world.

[deleted] 5 points · Oct 2020

My man! That first paragraph was a beautiful way to say how we shouldn't be putting ourselves above others in our minds, because it projects

[deleted] 9 points · Oct 2020

Almost 5 months in. I am 165cm and I even I can relate.

Maisarah_2001 9 points · Oct 2020

damm 5 months dude hell yeah. im 170cm and 4 months in and too can relate

Emergency_Avocado_60 8 points · Apr 2022

All i see in the comments is a bunch of arrogant people on SR.

Right-Tumbleweed-491 1 points · May 2024

lol 

hsinoMed 7 points · Oct 2020

Dang bro, so many great stories about SR. Any tips on how to get past the relapsing habits? Been struggling with it. I want to say that part of the reason is that porn, sex and voyeurism is so normalized now a days but Who am I kidding? Its my fault I want to own it and get out of this mental dump.

KJNH96 6 points · Oct 2020

I feel you bro but honestly i see every replase as a lesson

animeyukihira 5 points · Oct 2020

good newbie gains haha

[deleted] 5 points · Oct 2020

It's the job, people generally avoid eye contact with police or authorative figures. They don't want to draw unwanted attention or get in trouble.

[deleted] 3 points · Oct 2020

I have to focus my vision elsewhere . I've also noticed women are more likely not to shy away than men,same goes for children.

I've seen that too.

[deleted] 2 points · Oct 2020

Trying being more open and loving, you'll get more love from the ladies and men

DarkEngraver [OP] 1 points · Oct 2020

I am actually very connected to my feminine side too but I only display it with family and my close friends. Sort of a hard shell with a soft interior. I've been working on my third eye chakra and had some stunning intuitive queues for past few days but I need more time to be sure it's not just my excitement playing tricks. SR and self improvement mentally and physically is a lonely path but I enjoy it greatly.

RegalRedpill 1 points · Oct 2020

Happens to me to me all the time even be4 SR.Its used to bother me because its so weak and beta but i just stop caring.Some men actually give you a respectful nod or speak.Women be looking down to.

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AndrewA187 2 points · Oct 2020

What do you mean attack and face no consequences ? I don’t know what shithole country you are from but security guards can’t just walk around punching patrons in the head you sound really retarted.

DarkEngraver [OP] 1 points · Oct 2020

Idk where you live but here we aren't allowed to attack people out of the blue. We are only allowed to retaliate if physically attacked or if there is imminent danger of being physically attacked and if we get physical only to restrain the person not beat them up. Truth be told in all serious incidents I just used a pepper spray and that calms them right down. An angry guy can shout and curse at me all day all I can do is call the cops.

[deleted] -6 points · Oct 2020

😂😂 y'all niggas be goofy w some of this shit.its all in ya head big homie ur perspective is them looking away cause they sacred but they prolly thinking why TF this nigga randomly staring at my eyes, this nigga gay or sum

filibeefo 13 points · Oct 2020

^ Found the guy that looks away.

Advicer2020 3 points · Oct 2020

Lol? So when a man is looking in some other mans eyes means he is gay? If they have this mind set it’s their fault. Even though they think this they don’t need to look down because it’s a sign of weakness and insecurity.

[deleted] -1 points · Oct 2020

Yea bruh in their head it is. It seems yall took my comment as an attack on retention when I believe in the benefits n everything. All I'm saying is ur perspective shifts, some people prolly think it's gay to actively look at niggas eyes that aren't talking to u n u don't know why r u just staring at dudes eyes? others don't either way who cares it's all in ya head bruv.

Advicer2020 3 points · Oct 2020

It’s not about staring / gazing. That’s abit cringe. But just normal eye contact as u walk by or something like that shouldn’t be any reason to think: is he gay? The fact that they look down when just passing by or something is a sign of weakness in my opinion and then they think: “is he gay” just to make an excuse for themselves to look down and defend that they can’t look back in the same way. Ok let’s say he IS gay . Why not just look back? What you fear? That he gonna rape you? Just smile no matter what kind of person he is.

[deleted] 1 points · Oct 2020

That's cool just saying hi n shit cool little head node. I do that shit with most people. Op making it sound like it's an eye contact battlefield not everything is as deep as it seems. Even them thinking ur gay for looking at them u try to find so many justifications like nah they just looked away who cares.

Advicer2020 2 points · Oct 2020

It depends . It’s not a competition in the “passing by” but in a conversation or quick chat it’s quite easy to see if someone is confident or just looking away and down.

Dismal-Tour-5700 1 points · Sep 2023

We are in the same profession. Being a security officer puts us in the limelight so to speak. The intimidation is very clear, people feel that energy. Not to mention the stares. Not looks stares. As I have found on retention, this is real.