u/Antique-Ad8161

I just want to say take care.

You are not only grieving, you have a new baby & are still recovering plus I suspect you have symptoms of trauma.

You did not kill your husband. He chose to kill himself. It was a choice & not one that you made. I’m terribly sorry he decided to do this. There are just no words.

My heart breaks for you. I hope you’ll have a can get help sooner than January.

Hugs from Australia

I hope you get a voucher for a replacement.

I used to handle complaints for a food company & even if you didn’t have the best before date/batch code I’d send you a voucher for a replacement.

While it is early to be discussing having children together, discussing a personal preference for your own future is sensible. If she has no real desire to have children she should say that so you can consider whether you are compatible. It would be a hugely disrespectful thing to do, to build a relationship with you while giving you false hope. It would just waste your time & hurt you emotionally based on a half baked maybe. I would say the same if the genders were flipped in this situation too.

You need to tell her how important this is to you & if she keeps dismissing it I think you’ll have your answer.

Do not cancel. You’ll regret it later if you do. I understand the connection with him being half Thai & you’ve talked about going together, but this is a once in a lifetime opportunity to have this time with your Dad.

It is unreasonable for your BF to expect you to invite him on a trip your Dad invited you on. Yes, you will miss this Thanksgiving with the BF - but he should be thankful that you get a special holiday with your Dad while you can. He should be happy you get to do something so special, even if it means he misses you. This trip has nothing to do with him being or not being a priority in your life. You can’t fix his feelings either, just accept you’ll miss each other & enjoy your time with your Dad.

Just do not cancel, you must go & he has to just grow up & be gracious about your good fortune.

No

Your health should be his priority too. Not his lack of hand jobs.

I really appreciate where you are coming from too. I’ve been chronically ill since mid-2020 & did most of the time since then I’ve been in pain, zonked out on meds for pain, in hospital, enduring drains in my abdomen with associated drain bags (current drain has been in place for nearly two years). I will be fortunate to get better if I’m lucky enough to get an organ transplant. How often have I felt sexy, or capable of having sex. Pretty much never. My husband does a good job of being pretty darn patient & we have worked out times when we can have sex. But I am so anxious I find it hard to relax til it’s over & then I cry as I’m so grateful my husband is so patient with me. It does bother him at times but he is not rude to me about it & just wishes I could get better sooner.

I write this (not only to vent) so you can see how someone who loves you could behave.,

I’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with the lack of sensitivity & impatience & I really hope your surgery gives you long term relief.

100% this! 👍

This is a really smart solution.

So he uses an imaginary threesome from before your relationship to belittle & humiliate you as well as using it as a reason to cheat on you. You deserve better than this. Please strongly think about your welfare & leave this manipulative person

It sounds like his behaviour is going to make your depression worse. If he hates you being depressed yet treats you like this… what kind of husband does this? He’s allowed to not be good at being there if he doesn’t prevent you from getting the support you need from others. I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I agree he is setting you up for failure. I honestly can’t understand why he stays if he hates you this much. I’m sorry but he is a waste of oxygen.

No

Is you boyfriend into Andrew Tate? His behaviour toward you is terrible & no one deserves that. I’m honestly shocked a 16 year old is so jealous & intrusive. It should be fun at your age, not a chore & full of negative energy. I hope you come to realise that you deserve someone who treats you as an equal & is proud of you & lifts you up. Good luck going forward, I hope you can feel brave enough to dump him & know you’re special enough on your own.

Sounds like a) you are human, & b) dog needs training.

Snap - same here

20 gifts is ridiculous, how can a kid learn to appreciate things when they’re showered with so many gifts they won’t even play with half of them. What a waste. She must be really insecure. Edited - NTA

The child is not a possession that you own which can be stolen. She’s not doing the right thing by your son, but neither are you.

Thanks