u/Designer-Click-2255

these clicks are awesome! i'd love to get into photography myself, may i ask which digicam you have exactly? :)

I think this topic often gets simplified in a way that doesn’t fully reflect what Islam actually teaches.

Islam clearly places financial responsibility on the man, and that’s a huge responsibility. At the same time, a woman is given an incredibly high and honored role, especially when it comes to nurturing and raising children.

But something that’s often overlooked is that housework itself (cooking, cleaning, etc.) is not an Islamic obligation on the woman. Those are things that should be discussed and agreed upon between spouses.

I also think it’s important to recognize that Islam gives women the choice. Some women genuinely want to be housewives, and that’s completely valid and honored. Others may want to pursue education or a career, and that’s also within their right.

For me personally, I’m quite ambitious and have been encouraged and supported by my family to pursue my goals. So the idea of completely giving that up and being expected to handle everything at home alone doesn’t really align with me. I’d want a partner who supports me, just like I would support him.

I think the key is partnership. Especially in the early stages of marriage and starting a family, both people are figuring things out together. Emotional support, understanding, and teamwork matter a lot more than rigid role assumptions.

Even historically, we see examples like the Prophet s.a.w.w and Imam Ali (as) helping in the home. That kind of mutual support and humility is what I think reflects the spirit of marriage in Islam.

At the end of the day, both men and women have roles, but that doesn’t mean everything is fixed in a rigid way. A healthy marriage should be based on mutual respect, trust, and supporting each other for the sake of Allah.

never lose hope iA the best will happen for you. like some have said in the comments, ask any friends/relatives/connections if they have anyone in mind. put yourself out there for example in imambargahs. (meet other women there and tell them you're actively looking too!) dont stress about timing or age, Allah is the best of planners <3

Wsalam. 21 F here, also in Toronto. Whatcha studying 👀

Honestly I think that’s more about individual experiences than a general rule. I’ve seen plenty of men with strong preferences too. Society kind of shapes expectations on both sides

It doesn't make you an outlier! It is actually really nice that you don't have such a silly insecurity. Society is just weird

Wsalam

Not necessarily but society always pushes that the boy has to be taller than the girl (idk why </3) and as a tall girl I've always been told to 'stop growing' because it'll get harder to find a suitable guy taller than me. Have heard real stories about guys stopping their spouses from wearing heels because they look taller than them. Ofc I don't mean to generalize this but it is what is more common I suppose which results in that mindset. This can't be answered for all women to be honest, everyone has their own preferences.