u/Fishface02

I relate so much with everything you've said. I have no answers, but plenty of confusion, fear, excitement(?) and solidarity.

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I was given propofol years ago in the ED while they realigned my wrist after a fracture. I was super drug naive at the time and remember waking up and asking my nurse "is this why people do drugs??" I felt really good and was super giggly.

When I was like 10 years old, I had to memorize a poem for school and procrastinated until the night before. I stayed up working on it over and over but just couldn't get it. I finally went to bed and when I woke up, I could suddenly recite it perfectly. It felt like I'd unlocked a cheat code for life!

Youch, what a miserable place to work! It sounds like the problem isn't the job, it's the company/ people you work with. Are there other hospices in your area you could switch to? I can say from experience that not every company is like that! My current hospice job is by far the best place to work that I've ever experienced.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "soft nursing" but I started at a non profit hospice 3 years ago and don't ever want to go to anything else!

Do we live in the same place?? Whole foods is now in the mix if so.

I'm not a huge gamer, only playing every now and then, but my favorites are PlateUp (similar to overcooked but I find it much more enjoyable) and Gartic Phone (think the old Telephone game, more for casual game nights)

Hard agree. This was blown way out of proportion. NTA.

You said it so well..."a privilege." I've been a nurse for almost 10 years. Found my way to hospice case management a little over a year ago and it was a step learning curve for me but now I feel like it's my long-term home. No other job has been near as gratifying and in line with my values. The impact we make in our patients and families' lives is almost palpable.

I also got really lucky in having excellent managers and team members, and we have a dedicated in-patient unit our patients can go to when we're having difficulty keeping symptoms managed in the home. I don't know how common that is with other hospices but it's been such an incredible resource.

Anecdotal but this fits with my experience when I tore my ACL as well. The weights they used to help my knees gradually straighten was the most torturous part of physical therapy for me.

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First, I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you the best in finding a good fit to make this process as smooth as it can be.

I'm a hospice nurse (so I go around to various homes and facilities) and have taken care of several patients at Brookdale Briargate. From my impression, the staff are attentive and caring. Can get pretty pricey though, depending on the level of care needed.

I haven't personally dealt with any of the other recommendations you've received here, but I vaguely recall hearing good things about both Lark Springs and Bear Creek. Don't remember ever hearing anything bad about them either.

Hell, I'm in my 20s and perfectly healthy and I fall now and then, occasionally with literally zero excuse/cause. I'm just glad it doesn't become broadcast to the world when I do.

Excellent breakdown which I fully agree with. ESH.

Excuse you...they got a taco bell several years ago, thank you very much.

Seed packets will usually give you instructions on when to plant based on average last frost date, both indoor and outdoor. I planted a variety of seeds just this morning, and won't be starting our zucchini seeds for several weeks.

And Hulu the day after, as radio ads so kindly reminded me 57 times today.

I personally don't think I'd ever have a joint account with someone I wasn't married to, except maybe a joint that I would send money to from a personal account for splitting bills or whatever. Even if a long-time relationship feels practically married, there's a huge difference legally.

Mine was breaking right around the time of general conference. I watched, desperate for some sign that it was all somehow still ok. It only sealed the deal.

Best of luck! Similar thing happened to us- our only is 3 and we've had one smaller dog since before she was born but recently adopted a 90 pound floof monster. Pets are the best!

Your baby does not need constant attention; my understanding is that it's actually good for even babies to spend time figuring out how to entertain themselves! (I listened to Janet Lansbury for more info on this.) As long as baby's needs are meet and you take opportunities to connect each day, I'd say you're doing great! Plus, you have to take time for yourself when you can!

Shinesty has some fun gag designs. I got a couple for my husband and they seem to be his favorite for comfort as well.

I'm not super clear on what your job is (playing music for a church congregation?) but it sounds like something that could work in a hospice position. I work for a hospice company and we have a music therapist. I have no idea what she's paid but she visits our patients and plays music for them.

Not who you're replying to but I'll chime in...while I'm firmly OAD myself, I have an embarrassing amount of siblings and agree with the above commenter. There were times my siblings felt like enemies growing up but overall, we genuinely cared about each other and mostly got along. Thinking about those relationships and how my daughter won't have that is probably the hardest part about being OAD for me (even though I know a good or even decent relationship between siblings is absolutely not a guarantee.)

My understanding is that whoever is in charge of making medical decisions for you when you're incapacitated can override anything you've written previously. I'd think the best answer would be electing an MDPOA who you trust to follow through with your wishes.

Edit: looks like those replying to me might have more clear knowledge. To make it clear, my response was more of a guess based on my limited experience.