u/LiamFromToronto

Totally normal, it’s only been a day. Keep it chill and she’ll loosen up once it stops feeling new.

Thank you, it really helps to hear that. I’ve been feeling like a monster for how close I came to it.
My mom says she’s tired of putting up with it and wants a divorce. But when my dad’s sober he’s a great guy and I know he loves us, so I’m torn. I honestly have no idea how to deal with his addiction.

Ugh, I’m so sorry, that’s awful, and none of it is on you: he lied, you didn’t do anything wrong. Dwelling is normal right now, so don’t fight it, just give it time and lean on your friend, and tomorrow say your piece and walk away.

Don’t pitch “opening up” as a cover story, that’s just more lying. Come clean first, then let him decide what he wants.

Get them a big hooded towel or changing poncho, and let them pick. Kids that age usually want the privacy anyway.

You’re not a bad parent, you’re burned out with zero backup, and your brain grabbing for any exit is normal. Before any big decision, look into respite care and Medicaid waiver programs for your son, and call 211 for local caregiver support. You’re doing a hard job alone, and you’re not failing.

just be honest, say you're a youtuber making a lost media video and ask nicely. lying about being a journalist can backfire if they google you

that's fair, so pick clubs based on shared interests (gaming, hiking, sports) where language matters less. also check if your uni has an international student group, easy place to meet people

join a club or society, you see the same people every week so friendships just happen. also talk to people in your tutorials, most people are in the same boat

lowkey you don’t have to pick one. set a deadline (like 2-3 months) for the old option to reopen, and in the meantime test the new thing in small, low-effort ways. if the old one comes back, great, if not you’ve already got momentum

Thank you, I'll try.

Kinda odd, yeah, but it happens more than you’d think. Shower lists often get made separately from the wedding list, or the mutual friend added you without checking, and a big wedding usually means a tight headcount. It’s probably not personal.

You’re not obligated to go. A polite “so sorry, can’t make it, congrats!” isn’t rude, especially since you two aren’t that close anymore. If you’d actually enjoy the lunch and catching up, go for it. But if you’d just feel awkward buying a gift for a wedding you’re not at, I’d pass.

And what am I supposed to do with this?

Thank you so much. Your words truly mean a lot to me.

Honestly, it helps to make “being present” really small. Pick one thing a day, like a walk without your phone or a meal where you just eat, and give it your full attention. Your brain will keep drifting to the past and future, and that’s normal. Just notice it and come back. You don’t have to fix it all at once.

Rice cookers are nearly silent, and plain rice barely smells. The steam is tiny, so no worries there. Just tell her, “hey, I got a rice cooker so I’m not stuck with cafeteria food, cool if I use it?” Most roommates don’t care, and having her on your side helps since they’re not technically allowed. Then just press start and do your own thing. It’s hands-off, not a cooking show.

You don’t have to force it, but don’t write him off before meeting. Attraction often kicks in in person, and that’s happened with other guys for you. Go to hang out, not to “fall in love,” and if there’s no spark, tell him honestly and kindly instead of dragging it out. Don’t mind the “league” opinions; being with him out of pity would hurt him far more than an honest no.

Depends what you need right now. The DSP pays more upfront but those jobs are known for tough quotas and burnout. Wawa pays less at first but is steadier, with benefits and a real path up. Just get the “supervisor in 3 months” thing in writing, since verbal promises can mean anything.
Either way, a W-2 job beats under-the-table work for renting, loans, or having unemployment to fall back on. If you need cash now, take the DSP and keep your side gigs. If you want something to grow in, go Wawa.

I’d skip the “leave your phone at a friend’s” thing. It works until it doesn’t, and then your parents stop trusting you and every future ask gets harder.
Better move: show up with a plan so there’s nothing to say no to. Who’s driving, exact times, when you’ll be home, who you’re going with. Even offer to keep Find My on the whole time, it shows you’ve got nothing to hide.
Don’t dodge the “non-Christian artist” part either. Just be honest that you like the music and want them to trust you on this one. Ask early too, not the week of.
If they still say no, ask what would need to change for a yes next time. Not what you want to hear, but it sets you up way better than sneaking out.

She literally told you the deal: “I love you, but nothing serious, and btw I miss my ex.” Believe her. It’s not a puzzle you can solve with enough effort.
Also, you live in HER house. If this blows up, you’re the one packing, so start a quiet plan B now.
Enjoy it if it’s fun, but only invest as much as she does. And ask her straight up what she wants. How she reacts will tell you more than any “I love you.”

A full planned-out persona is exhausting to keep up, because you’re acting all day instead of living. It works better to pick one or two things you actually want to change, like style, fitness, or being more social, and build them in gradually. Keep what feels natural, drop what doesn’t.
What’s making you want to change?

Totally agree about Labour Day. It really does just feel like a random day off rather than a holiday with actual meaning. I usually just end up doing chores or sleeping in. It's a nice break, but there's zero cultural hype around it.

Yes, mostly, but with a big caveat: it depends heavily on where you are. Outside a handful of big cities, daily life basically requires a car, same as the US. Canadian cities tend to be somewhat denser and have better transit than comparable US ones (Toronto, Montreal, and Vancouver all have real transit systems), but the suburbs and small towns are very car-dependent. Distances, winters, and low population density make it hard to do otherwise.
The main differences from the US: more people in the big three cities actually live car-free, and the gap between “urban Canada” and “everywhere else” is larger than in most places.

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