u/Morebeermoreproblems

Thank you for this post everytime. I am so addened to hear this. I0n was an awesome soul. May he rest in greatness and eternal peace.

That babby gives us every reason to be sober. Whether they are our own children or the community's children, they need loving, responsible adults to guide them.

I've always felt this way! They can be really really tough, like when combined with terrible depression and other scary feelings. But that mental toughness 👌🏽

Well said!

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This is exactly how I would describe my journey too. It's better, it's bad again, then I look back and realize I was doing a lot better than I knew.

The edit made me laugh. Such a good post mouse. Thank you as someone who was once new and relied on posts like this. Wishing u lots of good things

Just want to say my heart is going out to u and I'm thinking of u. I lost a parent to suicide and it nearly killed me. I know no one shld be guilted into tolerating their depression but I just want to share from the other side. I also lost my damn mind thru drinking and pills and everything changed so much after getting sober. So much is possible

"How would i become the chatty, funny, easy going girl everyone likes to be around?" I would describe drinking as having done the exact same thing for me, and when I first started it was hugely appealing. I thought I was becoming the real me. But the amount of socializing and how I acted in social situations was out of sync with my true nature and really, my soul. This dissonance started to create more stress as time went on. Relationships take energy and as my alcohol use continued, friendships started to fall apart as poorly as the foundation they were built on. I was spending a lot of time with people I wasn't even sure I liked, and some of them I actively didn't really like--but I thought having friends was more important than that. I swapped quality for quantity and even my true, loving friendships were built on a foundation of alcohol misuse.

Eventually my problem with drinking got extreme enough that I was willing to give up any social benefits (there were basically none left at this point anyway...even worse, it had all fallen apart and gotten worse than I ever could have imagined.) I was willing to give up the escape and social lubrication. I decided I would rather find out who I really was--even if that's a sensitive, socially anxious sort of introvert.

I knew I had to quit because every single other thing I tried to fix my problems was like putting a bandaid on a gushing pipe. But quitting drinking was like hiring a pipe fitter to fix the pipe. My gut told me there was a serious problem when I drank and that quitting was the way out of my insanity and misery.

Omggggg 😻 So proud of you. Can't wait to see what year two brings for you 😈🕺🏽🔮

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Not drinking or taking drugs on Christmas 👹 Not today Satan

This is giving me life right now. Thank u. I'm not okay, but I'll make it.

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That's really tough--I'm sorry. I can look back at my own experience and see how deep the claws of addiction sunk into me. Fighting my way out wasn't pretty and it wasn't an overnight success. It helped me to focus on the next step, trying to do the next right thing. If that's getting rid of the bottle, I'd try to figure out how to do that. Might help to call someone supportive if u have someone, or otherwise working thru the feelings. Sending u sober vibes

Doesn't feel that impressive cuz I know how many tries and hangovers it took me get here ;) sounds like ur off to a great start

The hangovers and embarassing things I did while drunk were the two major things that ruined alcohol for me. Along with it destroying my health. I can understand why u feel like stopping. This sub has a lot of great information and encouragement. Ur not alone. And if uve tried and stayed sober for a little while before, that should help a lot.

I wouldnt necessarily ask my so to stay sober because its such a personal decision and I know I dont really have control over others decision-making. I would however communicate in depth what I was doing, why and how I needed support. If they were interested in quitting that would be great, but after having been sober a while, I wouldn't be surprised if someone else who still drank wouldn't stop at the drop of a hat, even for their so. I would turn all my focus on my own decisions and try to set an example of why being sober is a better way of being. If my so continued to drink problematically while I stayed sober, I would talk to them about that and maybe even end the relationship. But it sounds like u said he is able to drink responsibly. Best of luck to u!!!

Thank u

Thank u for the reply, I appreciate it. I cant quite explain how I think it will help me build muscle so I guess I need more experience/research.

This hits hard...especially the preachy bit ✊🏽 And the details about life behind prison bars. Thank u for sharing--it's a privilege to be free

Im definitely in the process of trying to get over it 😬 Or at least to what I think are normal levels. The drinking and other things really did a number on the flight or fight response and anxiety/depression issues so working thru things with a nice therapist and staying sober :)

How much social anxiety I actually had and was covering up hardcore with substances.

I'm not drinking today!!! Feel emotionally confused and stressed...and being sober is exactly how I need to face that. Grateful for u all staying sober with me 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Thank you for this! Amazing job on 7 ys

You look so great in your after photo! And really enjoyed the post 🙏🏾