u/Next_Cheek_3749
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Biggest issues in the beginning (self.polyadvice)
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Advice on poly relationship (self.polyamory)
Next_Cheek_3749
Next_Cheek_3749
Unfortunately shutting down or saying something mean when I feel hurt is one of my issues I’m working on. When we communicate the issues he makes the changes but he feels like it’s becoming an all the time thing. Something is always needing tweaking. I feel like that is normal in this to make sure we’re comfortable in what we’re doing. I make sure I’m not making crazy or unreasonable demands.
Next_Cheek_3749
The polyamory talk came first and we did do a lot of communication on what we expected. I figured we would have to change things as we went along due to this being a first for both of us. I don’t really know what’s normal or not for this kind of relationship. So I’m just looking for answers and guidance I guess.
Yes we were together prior to poly. It had been a topic discussed. I did a lot of research and read some books. I wrote down questions and things I thought would make me feel safe and secure. As for him I don’t know.