u/No-Scale9401

Bro what😭

Well why aren’t you doing your shots bruh

She can’t separate her fantasy from reality clearly because she will develop gender dysphoria from having bottom surgery since she’s a woman. What she wants is to magically grow a dick some of the time and then go back to being a woman, but that’s not how life works. She should just strap or get a realistic prosthetic , maybe even pack

I’m 5,5 and pass, I have male friends who don’t judge me for being short and I’ve had no trouble dating because I’m a catch (haha). Honestly the more you think about your height the more you will project insecurity and that’s an unattractive trait. My ex bf was 5,3 and ftm, I literally thought he was the hottest guy ever

Bruh so maybe that’s a start, just come out to your friends dummy. If they really are your friends they will understand and accept you, if not, you have an opportunity to make new friends who will understand you better and will make you happy. Ikwym by not wanting to look like a moid I get it, but eeeeevvveeryyyy trans person has an awkward phase in their transition it’s impossible to skip it. It’s better to start transitioning and just thug out the hon phase so you can become a passoid, otherwise you’ll boymode literally forever and then commit suicide

I mean it seems this is all an experiment to him so he might just naturally go back, I know you said he isn’t faking and you believe him but if he’s constantly going back and forth then who’s to say this is any different. Is he feminine in nature? What I mean by that is when you love him does it feel like loving a woman / is he fembrained basically lol

If you girlmode with your friends why are they misgendering you. And also if you can girlmode with friends why not do it in school too? I’m ftm so it’s different for me I know but all through high school even when I was a little pooner I was outwardly identifying as male and would tell all my teachers to refer to me by my name and whatever, in college now I’m passing and my names legally changed so it’s a non issue. Anyway, yeah why not just do that

Why rope when all of this is in your control. Okay, you don’t care about it, but I think you can find something to make it worth it even if it’s a fantasy. Laying in bed all day contributes to your apathy for living, as you are hardly living at all. Try going and doing something that you wanna do, like for months there’s been this art market local to me that I’ve not gone to but wanted to, I went recently and it was like really fun and I’m glad I went ykwim, find something to just do and then do it without thinking about how much you care or don’t care.

Why do so many trans men love their breasts so much they get delusional about the “boy boobs” bullshit. Breasts are a female sex characteristic no matter what and if you aren’t dysphoric about them you are a cis woman

No point in farming pity if you won’t actually lock in and have some discipline to study. I’m trans and in college and I study every day, while working 30-40 hours a week on top of that. You are fully capable of doing homework, I space out in class too but that’s why I go home and watch YouTube videos on wtvr I need to learn. If you don’t enjoy being a failure it’s up to you to stop failing

I literally told everyone I had my gallbladder removed

I was T4T for a while until I got top surgery. I was T4T because I felt no cis man could ever sleep with me and still see me as a man, or see my body and still think of me as their boyfriend. With dating another trans man that was just not an issue, and it was also nice having someone who understood my dysphoria. Me and my ex would tape our chests together and he was careful not to touch me in a way that I wouldn’t like ykwim. But now that I am post op I just don’t have dysphoria lol, I could be with a cis man and not worry about being perceived as female

Yeah, it’s a really stupid and superficial argument. Gender non conforming cis people experience happiness when dressing like the opposite sex but they aren’t trans, crossdressers and drag queens enjoy dressing like the opposite sex and are still cis. Only trans people experience gender dysphoria

Most non binary people are gender non conforming and not transsexual, an actual transsexual non binary person would medically nullify their sex characteristics and have dysphoria for either sex characteristics. Most of the time people identify as non binary to escape gender roles or to be quirky

No the dysphoria just becomes dormant, we can technically always go into remission if we detransition, but actual trans people don’t detransition so it’s more of a hypothetical

These are some tough questions bro, for you I would recommend becoming a substitute teacher (18 an hour ish) for job experience and then working a second job after school hours for more money, this can be like anything it doesn’t matter. You’ll be hard pressed finding a job that pay 21 an hour to an 18 year old.

If you can live with your friend that would be great, a dorm is also ideal since you could probably apply for one and it be covered or mostly covered idk how it works for you.

For financial independence it’s more of a mindset, you need to be very responsible with your money and not spend it on bullshit, you should be putting everything that you don’t need into a savings / putting it aside incase you need it, since you can’t ask your parents for help.

I think you pass already but there’s not much you can do without getting a haircut, once you do cut your hair just use mens styling products (I use mousse). For clothes I’m kinda gay so I wear bootcut and form fitting shirts, but honestly any kind of mens aesthetic is good just go on Pinterest.

For gym, I’m sure your school has a gym and if not you can get a membership. Make a friend who works out, that’s my method

If you want any advice on HRT or top surgery lmk, and good luck man

I personally shave everything but my chin and mustache

TRUTH NUKE, even talking to a non dysphoric it’s very obvious medical transition would damage them so much more than it would help them. The way I see it, is those who self identify as trans and have no symptoms are gender non conforming, not transsexual at all.

I think there are a lot of self identifying trans women out there who genuinely can’t give up their male privilege in order to assimilate with women. In basically every case of this their idea of being a woman is a caricature and usually has something to do with sex or being meek and feeble, literally just misogyny.

Trans people as a whole, for me if you explain your gender to me and you describe stereotypes or something sexual, I automatically question you. I’m ftm and I’m so far in my transition I literally don’t even think about it, as far as I’m concerned I am a male and that’s it.

Bottom line, you are correct that any genuine trans person would want to assimilate, and for those with unlucky puberty we should have compassion for because that isn’t their fault. But I personally am not going to validate the optics nukes of this community.

Probably 3 or so months for me, 6 months was the peak tho

I don’t want bottom and I’m transsexual. I’m on HRT and had top surgery, I had a medical transition and my sex characteristics are of a male. I have minor bottom dysphoria but pre t it was all visual, I have a t dick now obviously which made my visual dysphoria go away because I look down and see a dick

One of my cis friends who I’ve known for about a year now enjoys going to the gym with me. We both needed like a gym friend so we decided to just start going together, at the time I was pre op and taping so there was some stuff I physically couldn’t do but he never held it against me, we just adjusted the workout. When I would have a bad dysphoria day we could leave early or do an easier workout and he never made a big deal. I have never questioned our friendship or how he sees me, I know he sees me completely as male even though he knows I’m trans, which is something I very rarely experience with cis people, especially other men. He helped me a lot with my confidence being in the gym too, because I was scrawnier it felt like I didn’t belong there but he always pushed me to workout and stay consistent. I am very grateful to this friend, I am glad I don’t have to hide from everyone in my life what I am.

Transdermal? Like a patch? I’ve been doing T injections for the past 2 years and never had an issue