u/No_Rec1979

You're not a specialist. You don't know what you're talking about. (Except about the DSM. You nailed that.)

What happens to non-specialists in a new field is they fall for magic beans. That's what's happening here. I'd be willing to bet your current doctor is charging you an arm and a leg. Quacks generally do.

"Glutamate excitotoxicity" does not cause anxiety. That's ridiculous, frankly. The expert on anxiety is a guy named Joseph LeDoux. You can go look at his papers if you want to see what cause anxiety in mammals.

I seriously wish your husband well. May his symptoms never return.

But please try to be prepared when this treatment fails, because it's highly likely to.

I know this is an emotional issue for you, and I understand you think you're following the evidence.

You're not. Like so many desperate people before you, you've been sold a bill of goods.

And it stopped.

I'm honestly glad your husband's anxiety has gone away for now. Honestly. But chemical and physical treatments for anxiety only work in the short term. We've known that for 100 years.

Seizures (via either insulin or EST) disrupt anxiety temporarily, but the problem always comes back.

Atypical antipsychotics disrupt anxiety temporarily, but the problem always comes back.

SSRIs disrupt anxiety temporarily, but the problem always comes back.

Deep brain stimulation and ketamine disrupt anxiety temporarily, but the problem always comes back.

So maybe the millionth time is the charm, and we've finally found a chemical we can wash into a network of 86 trillion neurons and 100 trillion synapses, that will somehow magically change only the synapses causing the problem, with no complications or unforeseen consequences.

More likely, this treatment is yet another pipe dream, which will stop working once your husband's brain adjusts. (And shame on whoever gave you this pill if they aren't being honest about that.)

I, personally, think that every human being deserves respect. And that belief makes it easier to be kind to myself and others, and also makes me a better friend, husband, father, and general person.

From a purely practical perspective, I think that's the best way to live.

There are plenty opportunities to get traumatized later in life too. 

You're certainly correct. But broadly speaking, people who suffer a traumatic event after 18 tend to remember it. And they also don't tend to internalize it and blame themselves for it the way children do.

Certainly, no one who had a traumatic car wreck at 30, say, is going to think the anxiety they suffer afterward is something they were born with.

Hate to tell you this, but there's a fair chance your husband was a victim of childhood SA.

It would have started shortly before the night terrors started.

Familial SA tends to happen at night, so it's pretty easy to see why he might have been terrified by the idea of a strange man sneaking down the chimney into his house at night.

It reminded him of his trauma.

It sounds like you've been through the wringer, and I'm sorry about that. I certainly have no desire to cause you more pain.

But just fyi, my background is in neuroscience, and I've worked with mentally disturbed children for 20 years.

I've never met a person that was "born mentally ill". Not one. The only thing I've ever met are people who had some shitty luck early in life.

Do with that information what you will.

He did none of those things.

What he did was buy companies that were already doing all those things and then pump their stock.

Enjoy being that 1 person in a million.

Unfotunately, most of us suffered in childhood somehow, and there are a lot of people who have blocked out parts of their childhood, and don't realize all of the ways it is still affecting them.

Yes, that's largely correct. I think Vallejo, California is the most famous example.

why has it not collapsed yet?

Because central bankers here in the US do basically all they can to continuously inflate house prices. And since local governments here tend to fund themselves by taxing land, that constant up, up, up allows otherwise unsustainable towns and cities to keep the lights on as long as the growth never stops.

If the "Greenspan put" ever stops, and house prices are allowed to become rational, we would likely see a massive wave of bankruptcies in suburban municipalities.

1) You are under no obligation to judge yourself by other people's standards.

2) Loving yourself is kind of like changing the oil on your car. All cars requires proper maintenance. It makes bad cars run better, and keeps good cars from becoming bad in a hurry.

So even if you were the worst human being on earth (you're not), loving yourself, and performing proper self-maintenance, is still the right call.

But it will make whatever else ails you worse

And it's generally the easiest part of the problem to address.

People sometimes eat lunch on an airplane, but an airplane is not primarily a restaurant, which is why the food is so bad.

In the same sense, a McMansion is primarily a financial instrument, which is why it does such a poor job of providing shelter.

This.

The first thing you need to realize is that Elon Musk is a grifter. His real core competency is stealing money from investors.

If you're actually interested in finance, you should really take the time to study how he does that.

Your whole career will likely be spent either defending your clients against grifters like Elon, or helping similar grifters find new victims.

They settled down and became landlords.

Just make sure you sweep up those flowers immediately.

Not everyone knows how to maintain healthy boundaries.

The children of narcissists, especially, have no idea what relationships with healthy boundaries feel like.

Banking conquered the world sometime after 1700. Especially on the European continent.

Putting it very roughly, the state with the better army wins the war, the state that spends more money has the better army, and the state with better access to bank loans has more money to spend.

So after 1700 or so, the ability to borrow money from a bank has been a matter of national security, since large armies cannot be funded without bank debt.

So any nation that refused to pay interest will eventually get conquered by one that was less squeamish.

McMansions aren't homes. Homes exist primarily to be lived in.

McMansions are financial commodities that exist primarily so bankers can make bets on them.

I wouldn't.

Can you wait a month or two?

We're right at the end of summer here in the US, so a lot of houses that don't sell in the next week aren't going to sell in September, either.

So if you can be patient, you'll be dealing with some desperate, grateful sellers soon.

No.

You also need to guzzle so much sugar that all your teeth fall out and your feet fill up with gout.

Barry Sanders' dad always insisted that Jim Brown was the best RB ever.

I don't know if Barry himself agrees, but must suck for him he couldn't even win over his own family.

For the record, that palo verde tree in the picture is the absolute worst.

The yellow flowers are pretty, but when they fall they rot and turn into some sort of sticky gum.

Had to throw away multiple pairs of shoes because of those.

Understood.

If you're not sure, there are ways to tell if your childhood was really great or if there are some things your brain has chosen to forget.

Just fyi.

In the last several busts, the worst thing to do has been to wait until you need the money.

The last person to sell Nvidia stock is going to take a bath.

With the same pile of documents I gave the police when I filed the report.