u/NyFlow_

Leave people the fuck alone and stop being a dick about shit that doesn't matter

Yep. If you bring up the extreme idea that not all men are active and repeat rapists, you forfeit your membership to The Girls Guild. It's all "girls gotta look out for girls" until one of those girls doesn't think all men are adolf motherfucking hitler.

idc I like C4ssunz3l

Yes I ship cassunzel

Wow, thank you for all the information!! This is what I was looking for!

 Anything in particular you're looking for help sorting out?

I'm fighting with my ADHD right now. I draw, animate, write, and produce music, but I haven't completed a project in any of these areas since I was 16. I go weeks at a time without doing any of these things because I dread doing them at this point (it takes too much effort). I'm trying to get myself to do something, anything, and nothing is improving. I'm in therapy and take meds, but I still struggle a lot. I'm starting to think this is impossible to fix and I just can't do anything period.

That everything I do must be for (or because of) a man if it's not shopping, popping 'em out, or... actually, that's really it.

I like knives, tearout, weightlifting, screenwriting (which is surprisingly male-dominated), and guns. But apparently I'm not allowed to talk about it because *\checks notes, squints really hard*... vagina.

I have always loved these things and I know that, but I get questioned or put down about them so much that it makes me question if I'm faking it somehow. It makes it hard to do them sometimes because every time I make a mistake or don't do something well, I get thoughts like, "It's okay, you can't help it, you're a stupid female." Liking things is apparently very hard.

Can't do shit without it being some political statement.

Guyssssss stop bullying meeeee ☹️ come on guys you're so meannn stopppp

Fuck it, I am. Normies suck and are the least empathetic group of people on the planet and I'm tired of not saying it. Fuck off

This is the ONLY answer.

Yeah

Yk what? Fuck you. stacks your boats\

This rocks. Fuck off

Hey, I get that too (related to my ADHD diagnosis)!

I love how my brain thinks me moving my stupid little legs is more pertinent than getting adequate sleep. Big miss, brain, but go off ig lol

In Mauritania, they practice something called leblouh -- basically a fat camp for tween girls to make them as fat as possible, as fatness (to the point of bordering morbid obesity) is considered the height of sexiness in this country. If you're not fat in this country, you don't get a husband. The girls are force-fed upwards of 16,000 calories a day. An older woman threatens them with a whip if they stop eating or refuse to eat. More disgustingly, if they vomit, the woman makes them eat it. 

Add'l: I have no idea why this post is flared "worker's rights".

I like Uknighted Dream personally, but I think that's just because I like both Cassunzel and New Dream and I can't decide lol

Thank you! I felt a little dizzy, but I think that just comes with the territory -- at least until my body adapts to longer fasts. It used to be that 36-hour fasts knocked me on my ass in the same way, but doing them frequently made them feel like nothing. I hope to get the same way with 92-hours soon.

I agree!! Day 1 sucks for food cravings, but after that, I feel so free. I don't care about food anymore, almost at all. It's wonderful, like a weight has been lifted off me (in more ways than one, lol).

I have done this too! This is where most of my success has come from, I think. My longest one is 92 hours. I am trying to break that soon.

Uh. Duh

Goomba fallacy. There are many different takes on gender theory. Different people believe different things on it. You are falsely lumping all of these people together. The people who believe that gender is completely made up are not the same people who argue that some aspects of gender have a biological basis.

Also, gender is a social construct. Sex is not. Being transgender is about your sex -- changing or wanting to change first or secondary sex characteristics. Gender is stuff like "boys like blue and girls like pink". Gender can be used to affirm a transgender person's desired sex, though (e.g. a transgender man dressing in a way that is considered more "masculine").

Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean it's inexplicable...

And what you're not getting is that I'm explaining to you that these things are not equal. I am not liable to have empathy for you for treating your emotions like they are on par with violence women face. It shouldn't even be part of the conversation. These things are not equal, and you talk about "empathy" as if they are.

"You complained from the start that I don't care enough about you" Again, you are missing the point. You are wrapped up in your feelings of discomfort and women protecting themselves when I'm trying to tell you that this isn't about you. 

You are still making yourself out to be the one who is at a disadvantage in this situation. Your feelings of discomfort are valid, but you are not the one at a disadvantage here. That is what I'm trying to tell you. You can be bothered by it all you want. That's fine. I'm not telling you not to do that. But you cannot come in here and demand "Empathy" like this should be about you -- I think you want me to treat your emotions as if they're the same caliber of issue as gender-based violence. It's just not true. I'm not going to do that. So if that's what you consider empathy, consider me staunchly un-empathetic.

You see women having to be cautious because of an actual impending and pervasive physical threat to their safety and go "but the way they're protecting themselves bothers me in particular! I should get an equal say in this conversation, just as hers!" Ok buddy.

You're making a logical error here. Me protecting myself around men doesn't mean that you have to hate yourself. Have you raped a woman before? Ever killed one? Then you don't need to take my caution personally. It's just what I have to do.

It just goes to show. I'm talking about protecting myself, and you're talking about "But try to understand how I'm feeling here". The priorities are just wrong.

This conversation is categorically unfair. The fact that this is even a fucking debate is appalling to me. That you think you can come into this conversation and have any standing whatsoever just because you're feeling a little bit bad that women have to be cautious around you, when this conversation is actually about rape and murder and harassment. This shit has nothing to do with your feelings.

Every time I have tried to explain it, you get all up in arms about sex-based discrimination, while ignoring the behavior that necessitates it. You get offended by me keeping myself safe more than you are offended by sex-based violence against women, like rape, sexual harassment, and other violent crime. Your priorities are completely in the wrong place. You say yourself that you would want your own daughter to be cautious around men. Would you actually? You seem to be more invested in protecting your own feelings than you are in women protecting themselves.

There is no way you're still missing this point.

So you think that your feelings are more important than my physical safety? Not that I haven't heard that before, but really?

"Would I encourage my daughter, sister or mother to throw caution to the wind, and treat every man they meet as though they are Mr Rogers? No"

That's good. But it also means you must get my point.

Yes, protecting myself in this way is innately discriminatory (and can't not be discriminatory or it would not work), and it's not unusual or unexpected for innocent men to be bothered by that, in and of itself. If there were a way I could both protect myself against violent men and not offend innocent ones, I would do that. But as it stands, there really isn't. And I hardly think that a random man's feelings should take precedence over my physical safety, and I think that implication is completely absurd.