u/Okami512

Better option might be a redact script that edits everything

Girlfriend and I watched Splattercat's video on it, sold us on a shared day one buy.

Celeste, Expedition 33, Hades

I self identify with it, origin be damned. I'd say it's reclaimed at this point.

SSF?

Before starting hrt I was well treated badly... Horribly, by every queer guy I dated / damn near hooked up with. Queer spaces that were largely dominated by cis/gay dudes were extremely fucking hostile towards trans women.

And I just kept dealing with it kinda just felt it was what I deserved.

Last dude I went on a date on, cis/bi dude, dropped the following... After having sex. . . "You're so amazing you're everything I could want, just. . . If only you were a real girl." And then he doubled down like an idiot in trying to back pedal.

"Yeah, thanks for telling me I'm less than than a cis person of either gender."

And he had the audacity to ask if I wanted to fuck again after that point.

About a year later finally started hrt. And kinda realized I deserved better for myself. Far better than the 5+ years of being a doormat in relationships. Really haven't felt attraction towards a guy since.

As for trans mascs? I don't know if I find them attractive as I don't interact with them often enough. I just don't run into them very often.

I guess when it comes to attraction. I've got issues when it comes to dating men. And trans men are men. And there's a lot of shit I've yet to work through before I was ever comfortable dating a guy again. Which isn't a high priority considering I haven't felt attraction towards guys in a long time (to the point I see myself as sapphic now), and just everything else to work through that's far more pressing.

But yeah. . . Transbian poly is nice

This movie, I've never seen a better friend of dysphoria.

As someone struggling with similar, you did nothing wrong.

Enthusiastically consenting adults having fun together, is totally fine.

Role-playing especially, is fine and is a good way to start working through stuff.

Same.

Oh just had this happen, "have you taken steps towards the bridge?"

"I have to go past the bridge to get to the fucking bus stop. My partner has gas to hide the sharps."

Marks down low risk despite two prior attempts.

My girlfriend is a disabled combat vet who lost a leg after getting hit by an IED.

She's literally had people ask why she was in a wheel chair before she got her prosthetic...

Anime style 3d

So that happened to me once, was doing friends giving with a few friends. Mentioned I never dyed my hair before, they asked what color I wanted. So I'm in their shower and feel something at head level poking me in the cheek.

Get the water and dye out of my eyes, I see a suction cup dildo at face level with a scrubby thing on a rope hanging from it.

They just had a decorative shower dildo. Because it was funny. Used to have a tentacle before it fell and broke.

Pretty well useless. Few years back a server I had connections to (I was friends with the owner and she was a regular in a server I was modding for. Both servers had a lot of overlap regarding moderators) was getting pushed to officially partner with Discord despite the owner and moderation team declining repeatedly. Discord finally stopped once they made it clear the server was adamantly pro LGBTQIA+.

Discord never asked them again after that.

Year or two later another server got hate raided by a bunch of chuds (still dealing with PTSD from some of the shit posted.). . . Yeah discord's safety team was fucking useless.

How is deadlock for healslutting? Contemplating getting into both.

Normally played tank in MMOs back when I was playing them.

Just, curious, is it even worth going to any of the events? I'm new to the city... I don't pass in the fucking slightest I don't even get clocked as fucking trans. Only have like one skirt that fits. And NGL feels like I got screwed by estro even after 3 years of hrt.

Just fucking isolating. Between that and being mostly house bound these days, aside from living with one of my girlfriends, honestly fucking feels like not a fucking thing changed since leaving bumble fuck Pennsyltucky aside from not getting openly called slurs and worse access to healthcare.

(And the the terfs have already started the down votes. Yeah yeah, whatever helps you feel better about yourselves.)

I can't remember his name, but there a stand up comedian who has a skit: "sexist trans ally". And it's fucking amazing.

Just moved out here to be with my partner. Not gonna lie the mental healthcare resources I've been able to access within 5 months have been fucking garbage so far.

Damn near threw myself off the Saint John's bridge during the month+ I wasn't able to get my meds filled.

Just saw an ad for 'Forever Ago' some sort of road trip game with a narrative, no idea if the gameplay involves driving or not.

I mean my nesting partner and I while we established we're both poly before we had even had our first date, neither of us had any other partners.

Ended up getting close with a close friend's girlfriend. And well, only reason I told my therapist when I realized I had a bit of a crush before my (now) nesting partner? Because we had a 3 hour time difference and she wasn't up yet.

Told my friend after taking a bit of time to work up the courage (was within a week). (For reference her and her girlfriend are also poly). And literally she then was sitting there stepping me and her girlfriend through flirting with each other (this was end of winter, early spring).

Cut to this last Wednesday. TTRPG, in the video call you had,

My nesting partner, me, my close friend from before, our mutual girlfriend, one of my friend's other girlfriends, aforementioned girlfriend's wife. (Plus one other chick not dating anyone).

(Yes that was a journey XD)

It requires a lot of openness on everyone's part, I've probably had the most difficulty just because of trauma from a closed throuple I was in a long time ago. Outside of that only complaints, scheduling and distance.

I think you probably need to have a sit down with your partner and talk about your feelings here, see what hers are. From there make your choice on whether to bring it up to your bestie or let the crush fade.

And some words of advice a once good friend gave me that have served me well. If you have a crush on someone, either act on it (tell them) quickly, (month or two) or let it fade. Letting that sit long term is never healthy.

How is deadlock for healslutting? Contemplating getting into both.

Miyazaki said he'd like to do one, but Sony wasn't on board if I recall correctly.

Absolutely valid.

I'll take the challenge. Literally have done it with just audio stimulation.

Griddle!