u/SmartPipe3882

You're a fringe purchaser of a fringe product. Apple has never catered to you. The Air MagSafe battery caught flack for not being able to fully charge the Air and that could do 80%. Apple has never been the company that makes "in case of emergency" products.

“I’m not gay, I’m just on blood pressure medication” is WILD 😂😂

So yeah, if you’re posting the photo from the main post and then revealing that this is actually what you look like?

Online dating isn’t gonna go well for you. Like, let’s be real, it’s essentially a competitive market and you’re not the hottest product on offer, but using 20 year old photos to try and hook guys in is not the play.

Work with what you’ve got, not with what you had.

I think we both know that if you threw some effort at it, you could take a better photo than this. Hell, upload it to your chosen AI and ask it for pointers if you don’t, but do something. Because this picture and the main picture? They’re not selling anything to anyone. They’re a low effort combo.

Nobody you want to be talking to is looking for low effort.

That photo is so low-res that you may as well have posted a painting. If you’re using it online or on apps, you’re basically saying to people “I haven’t taken a photo I like since 2006 and I don’t look like this anymore”

Your parents objected to the neighbours proposed usage overlooking their home.

The neighbours have subsequently ensured there is no visibility in either direction.

Sounds like your parents need to enjoy their cake.

Then just wait a week? Jesus. All this anxiety about opening a new bank account, and you don't need one in the first place.

Dick Turpin died some time ago. Highway robbery isn't a thing anymore. You'll be fine driving the money home and paying it in when you get there.

Ok, well…good luck with that? Because this reads like you’re prompting us as if we were ChatGPT.

And we’re not.

If I’m honest, no.

Nope, station. Maybe, in a tiny rural station a-la Hot Fuzz, a Chief Inspector might lead a station. Otherwise, anywhere where the force deals with more serious matters than underage drinking and escaped swans, it’ll be a Superintendent at a minimum.

In the Met, it’s generally a Chief or Acting Chief Superintendent.

I can only imagine what that poor generative model had to read you type in to give you that back.

"I agreed to receive two neighbors" is a sentence you should aim to not use again.

And, widower on not, you were unfortunately quite naive to assume that your neighbours - presumably being a couple themselves? though unquestionably described by you in terms that suggest obvious emotional unavailability - were looking for emotional investment when they requested a reception.

Grief causes us to make choices we might not otherwise, accept that the benefit of hindsight has shown this to be an example of such a mistake and move on with your life.

If your neighbours are causing you to feel used, exploited or otherwise less than, it's time to stop inviting them to intimate soirees.

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So, as someone at 38, my main point of pause with dating younger guys is that I know we're in very different places in our lives. And I've literally been there, done that, and think I'd assume - whilst we might have lots in common - we're probably looking for different things in some key areas.

Do I think it's creepy? I think it can be. I think a guy my age pursuing teenagers is creepy. I think an older guy putting on his profile that he's only looking for guys in their early 20s and younger is creepy. No so much because of the age difference itself, but more their motivation. But it's like all things, there's an obvious line, but it's sometimes less than defined. It's down to the people. And I think I'd assert, fairly or unfairly, that guys in their early 20s are less well equipped to deal with older guys who happen to be scumbags, and it's that possibility for advantage being taken and emotional manipulation and all that shit that causes people concern when friends begin seeing someone seemingly in a different orbit. I think the older guys defending it tend to defend it on the basis of "you're legally able to consent and I'm into you, so why not?" and I think that is a creepy and reductive outlook that basically sexualised and fetishises your youth and let's them do all the things they wish they'd done when they were your age. I think you risk being used and discarded.

Generally, I tell friends that I'm kinda over guys much younger than 30 anymore. Not because there aren't guys in their 20s I find attractive or interesting, but because I tend to find there's a gap between us that I can only really chalk up to life experience. There's something beyond just sexuality that doesn't align. If we're dating, I'm looking for a partner, not a project. Someone equally equipped to support me and lift me up, and I find the bigger a gap in age, the more one-sided that dynamic tends to be.

What advice was called for beyond that which was given? I think you mean to reprimand my tone, and I get that, but the majority of the post is literally the correction (which, if you'd like, you can phrase as advice. i.e, I advised them on the facts which undermined their position) you're seemingly asserting isn't there.

If you're going to call me a prick, call me a prick. Like I said, I get that, but you're evidently not quite on-the-button enough to do it via subtext and inference. Just stick to face value statements. They're a little easier, you won't get as lost.

Just because you’ve accepted they obviously never existed, you don’t get to pretend to be them now. That move doesn’t get you to checkmate. Thats just the same cuck in a different outfit.

Hey, in the shadow of your failure, my alleged missteps look like nothing at all.

Because I wasn’t cucked by a scammer into falling for someone that doesn’t exist.

I do not. I didn’t have to ask if the onlyfans scam was real, out of a lonely desperate hope that it might not be.

Cucked to fuck.

Cucked to fuck.

Ahhh, the “it wasn’t a real question” play. Well, well sold. Because you look a cuck. Cuck to fuck.

Dude, read the profile you’ve written for yourself on here and then read through this cuck story, ask yourself who you wanna be.

Once you’re asked to sub to an onlyfans, regardless of who by, it’s a scam. Once you’re asked for money, it’s a scam or a commercial relationship. You’re not gonna romance your way through it.

That you didn’t immediately know, as soon as someone mentioned subbing to their onlyfans, that it was a scam. That you continued. You hoped it might not be, you cling onto it not being because you thought “oh but they’re so hot, and they’re interested in men, they said things to me that played into how I want to be seen”

Anything other than immediately blocking someone on Grindr who brings up you subbing to their onlyfans is a chump move that encourages scammers.

Every second you’ve spend thinking about it since was a waste of your time. Asking this question on here was a waste of your time. You’ve been played, and whether you sent money or not, you came up for the play. You bought into it. You thought it might be real.

You’ve been stupid. Self-indulgent and stupid.

You should feel stupid.

And herein lies a lesson you really shouldn’t have to learn for the first time at this late stage;

Pick passwords you’ll remember. They’re important.

Well I’d have thought that too, it feels pretty obvious, but you needing to ask seems to suggest you’re lacking a little foundational understanding that you could benefit from being told about.

This isn’t a vote. Popular consensus won’t stop expired pork giving you food poisoning. Salmonella doesn’t care what Reddit told you.

The answer lies not in typing that address into Reddit, but rather Google, my lazy little friend.