u/Sub2rainEN

I’m so sorry. I got a call a few hours after dropping off my cow cat to be spayed and my heart sank. She just had skin infections they wanted to treat first, but I remember the panic.

I’m so sorry you lost your baby, but glad his short life was filled with so much joy for you both.

My first two cats passed suddenly. One was only about 6 months old, so it was very unexpected. The other was a senior and had some fugues and fluctuating energy/mobility. But one day he let out a terrible sound and passed in my arms while we tried to find a vet.

I don’t recall his little sister seeing him, but she knew. She and I grieved together for months. I’m so thankful we had each other. When I lost her after 12 years, that was the hardest. I had to make the decision at the very and I was alone with her loss.

There is no good way to lose a friend.

Sometimes these things happen. There’s nothing you could have done. Please give yourself a lot of grace and your surviving cat some extra love. ❤️

They should have included a photo of someone pointing to it on their hand.

Thanks, I never knew this. I’m O+, but anemic, so I only managed to donate a couple times. Now that I’m almost fully menopausal, I’m wondering if I can again.

You were a loving conductor in the CDS. You saved Bean from misery, showed her live for probably the first time, and got her to a forever home.

Well done. I can’t imagine giving up a cat, I know that was difficult. But your selflessness is to be applauded.

Happy trails, Bean…I’m sure you’ll meet again. 💗

That makes sense. My friend talks about how “Hobosexuals” are really good in bed, so they can get a place to live. It’s a similar dynamic.

I may be delulu, but I still think he was basically a good person, but developed insecurities that made him avoidant somewhere along the line.

That’s true. I had just moved from NYC to CA when I met him and the games men played in NYC and even the biggest dork I dated demanded and guilt tripped me about how I was “young and beautiful and would leave” or cheat on him…then told me he was seeing 4 other women and didn’t want to use condoms. Like what, sir?! So when my avoidant was sweet, inexperienced, nervous, and genuine, it was the exact thing that felt so new and good and different.

I truly hope he’s healed because the way he made me feel so loved and cared for in a genuine way that wasn’t just about my appearance was a gift and more women need to experience that.

Thanks. Glad to hear it. I understand. I felt like mine was the one and I never said that kind of thing before. I expected not to get married until him. Finding the avoidant thing actually was healing because it helped reconcile the incredible closeness with statements he made that contradicted it. I thought he had played me. I had a pretty F’ed up childhood, and he comes from a close knit family, so it’s actually surprising that he was avoidant and I was more aligned with my feelings. But you never know what happens behind closed doors, even people who seem kind and happy can have mean streaks or a divorce can make a kid develop a sorts of issues.

I went through this years ago. I didn’t know anything about avoidant personalities until something on TV brought back a lot of my feelings about him, which I only realized after having a dream about him for the first time in probably a decade. We dated 15-20 years ago and I have had relationships and attractions since him, although he remains my most significant relationship. Still, I don’t think I had thought of him in years and it surprised me. So I’m processing it all now that I recognize his avoidant nature as an issue.

Anyway, hope you’re doing better.

That’s S1 Dustin.

😂🥹😍

You can’t even understand or explain how I’m supposedly racist when I’m every race. 🤦🏽‍♀️ But you have the audacity to call me dumb. You’re one of the children left behind.

Dumb dudes who didn’t understand what I’ve said and refuse to take in information that contradicts their biases have been calling me dumb for neigh unto 50 years. You’re not even original, much less as intelligent or insightful as you claim.

See, the way arguments work is people make claims and use evidence to prove their claims. They don’t make ad hominem attacks to “prove” their opponent is wrong, particularly when those attacks are against the opponent’s intelligence that is clear in their arguments and ability to communicate.

But, you know, stay ignorant. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Another, you see what you want to see. 🙄 Why is my personality so addicted to arguing?

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