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Yes I do. Works wonders. (Him)

Great writing! We have issues with this in our local scene, and you have articulated it very well, and well done for sticking to your guns when others pull some shitty moves. Complete support from me.

So I ask a question of your opinion, you personally attack me, and I am the snarky one. Right.

I think your approach to non gender specific roles and teaching is flawed.

How is that obtuse? You are the one trying to teach non gender based norms by using stereotypical gender norms.

Eunuch

So a male sub kneeling at a female Dommes feet is ok?

Ain't going to happen then.

Focus on him. High Protocol service does it for me. Being bathed, being asked what I would like rather than what I need doing.

Sounds like a wannabe dom, the way you handled it should be in a text book of how to deal with this situation.

Well done on standing by your boundaries!

That's great, I am glad they have clarified things, would have been great to have that info at the very beginning.

Agreed.

Big heavy parcel type rubber bands placed around the thighs or chest across her tits. You can instruct her to pull and release them, leaves very nice marks.

Or that he is a master.

Leather culture/philosophy

Shows how little you know.

That's a good girl!

Not so much mine I don't think. I am Leather so I think it is more about that. If I respected a slaves past Dom, for example they split because of non compatibility rather than and issue, I would have no problem referring to them as Sir, as I am their Master. They are the only ones that may call me Master or Daddy.

I get where you are coming from as well, so all good.

People ask all sorts of questions here for all sorts of reasons. This one seemed naive to me and I sought clarification. Is that so really hard for you to understand?

It has nothing to do with validation and everything to do with accuracy of advice given in answer to the question. Moot point as regardless I think it should be removed.

If the OP came back and said,"oh, it is just a collar I like to wear that reminds me I am submissive but not with a partner" would your advice have been the same as you gave?

Amen.

Good for you.

In your opinion I am wrong, cool, I have no problem with that. That doesn't make it asinine though.

I clarified by saying I am not dismissing the importance of it to them, but the significance of removing it. Nuance and context, very important. But you keep flogging that horse, good on you.

I have also stated that for times like this it should be removed, as have many others, including yourself. Its importance, or significance, is irrelevant in times such as this.

My first comment on this thread was to ask the OP what the issue they have with removing it. If they had of responded that it was a 24/7 collar, I would have responded to that, but they didn't. I was hoping they would clear up the ambiguity, so people didn't have to guess, as has happened.

Um no, you actually didn't answer the question of why my opinion is asinine, you just misquoted me.

Most do, do they?

Been in kink over 20 years and been involved in scenes all over the world, never seen it referred like that.

Most, yeah. OK.

It is time that he distances her from your dynamic and I generally agree with the first four respondents.

One note though. My past slaves still refer to me as Sir as a mark of respect as do a number of submissives we know. My slaves refer to those I respect as Sir also, so I wouldn't get too hung up on that personally. My slaves also respond to me as Master and/or Daddy, and that is where the difference is.

Congratulations on your dynamic!

Go with you gut, it is not normal. I am a very heavy sadist and if a slave was to start flinching around me I would have to ask myself some very serious questions about my conduct.

For the record, I am Leather, and this still isn't normal. That is not what Leather is about.