u/TolMera

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TolMera

Some of those things are not the norm - check his diet, he might have an intolerance.

Turning purple, or screaming when pooping are things that make me thing check if he needs a different diet.

The other stuff sounds consequential.

Also, buy some full ear headphones, noise cancelling, cheap enough - and wear them. Your hearing is important, as is your partner’s, and people don’t realize that lots of parents suffer real hearing damage holding a screaming baby.

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Try this:

Tell daughter to bring her phone into the lounge, and the three of you are going to scroll social media together, but on her phone.

Get her to open TikTok and scroll the feed - anything that any of you want to watch, the three of you watch it, then talk about what you just watched. Like if you see a video with sexy half naked women and amazing beach properties, you can talk about what the lifestyle costs. If you see AI you can talk about how AI is becoming difficult to differentiate from reality.

When you find a person keeps popping up and your daughter likes their videos, you can google what they look like without a filter? What their net worth is, where they got their money if they come from money or made it themselves. All those extra things that we as adults understand are happening in the background, but kids only see what’s in front of them.

- what you’re doing is changing how the media is consumed, and potentially stealing the glittering ✨ rose tinted glasses ✨ so your daughter can start to actually see what’s she’s looking at.

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Someone give us context please - this seems like local news in a foreign language?

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https://preview.redd.it/gwk6u9mmdwxh1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bbe173fb7ed0dbef8358cec5bffc2a0d74d3b628

If my desk wasn’t on wheels, and if I had some time to stretch, but yea, congrats, your hyper mobile.

Talk to your doctor to make sure it’s not the kind of hypermobile that can result in your aorta 🫀 rupturing because it inflates like a bagpipe.

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Why not both?

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Kids watch a drug destroy their parents

Opium dens - opium
Smoking clubs - Tabacco
Wineries - alcohol

Kids learn not to make that stupid choice

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That. Poor. Man.

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Naa this is how you make sure this kid never has a wreck his body playing professional sport. Show him dominating the competition, then throw them out for being the best, also throw in a race card for being the only black kid. Now the parents can sue and walk away with a sweet and easy 5 mill.

If he chooses to go into sport anyway, he’ll hit colleague around the time his payment comes through, and he will be able to afford all the good things to launch his career.

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Hey I don’t know what you’re smoking, but share with the rest of us would ya?

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Total tangent from what others are saying, but you might be able to contact a charity or church or anything and ask if someone can spare some time to help. You need and will need the assistance of another person physically present.

Use a baby sitter if you need to - maybe you can negotiate late payment if you need. Some people will be considerate of your circumstances.

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Like how a felon can’t be president?

Like how the sitting president did this exact private citizen acting as government before the previous election?

Like how the 46th? President stole a bunch of secret documents and stored them next to a photocopier in a bathroom?

Like…

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You’re not my Reddit Supervisor! /s

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!remindme 28 days later

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You’re earning money - spend some of it to solve your problem.

Baby sitter - a few hours, and both you and wife get a break.

Daycare - a couple days a week, and both you and wife get that break

Cleaner - a couple hours less chores, and both you and wife get less chores to do

Buy a better feeding setup - have less cleaning to do, and both of you will have less to do

Name a problem - pay for a solution - receive the benefits of having solved the problem

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Then take a break and think about this: you are spending money to solve a problem, how long did it take to earn that money? How much time is it bring you? How much time is it costing you? And adjust your work/life balance to achieve the ratio you feel is right for you.

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Oh my goodness, I barely punctuated the comment at all!? One comma, two full stops, one dash, and 10,000 words

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Roads are not council responsability generally to my knowledge, that’s a federal, and TMR budget item. Though the story bridge saga it seems complicated.

Anyway, when my councilor stops spending $75k publishing and delivering their brochures advertising “look at me, look how great I am” and when they stop wasting money kicking the homeless while they are down, and when they stop wasting money on million dollar website rebuilds that honestly have no more functionality than a status webpage, then I’ll start listening to your babble. Until then, the dragons having fun playing with its hoard.

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This is so wrong, it’s like saying “see this pile of money? Yea it’s barely anything” says the dragon atop its hoard

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No it’s normal, but the bystanders need to give her a slap (it’s called hysterical screaming, and the standard treatment is a slap), then she needs to be escorted out, and when the medics arrive she needs to be treated for shock

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Trump has an ego so big that anyone can grab it and steer him like a boat.

So yes

But I’ll admit, I was thinking about it in terms of the old world order, not this craziness

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OP updated the post, seems like she’s got it pretty good, and has a personal day plus time when the child is in daycare or with a babysitter.

From what OP posted I think mum might have anxiety not PPD. It sounded like everything fine, but don’t try to change anything or it will all fall apart - that’s anxiety

There are medications for anxiety, which genuinely do help some people. Not that I’m saying meds are the solution but they can help.

This sounds like something a councilor would deal with, sounds like there should be a fortnightly check in going on

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It would become a meme, there would be a live tracking website “follow the journey of the dead astronauts” which would cause so much bad publicity that America would probably send a minimal payload rocket to either push it back to earth orbit and eventually retrieve with state funeral - or push into the atmosphere and burn up on reentry - or the rocket would “malfunction” and they would burn up in the “accidental” explosion.

And America would fall a little further from its once lofty place. Oh how the ‘hero’s’ have fallen

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Been checked for helicobacter pylori?

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$in per hour versus $out per hour

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Anyone else smell burning plastic?