u/Upbeat_Truth_4900

Here is her campaign page where you can send a message of support and/or donate.

https://bgp4az.com/contact/

Here is her campaign page where you can send a message of support and/or donate.

https://bgp4az.com/contact/

Yes! In this case, I’d bet “taking care of us” means he earns a paycheck. Something he’d do even if he were a single man.

If he were truly taking care of them, he’d have checked the potatoes he cares so much about. (And that conspiracy rant sounds unhinged.) He’d be making dinner for the family, while his wife is recovering from birth. He’d use appropriate words with his loved ones and model a healthy relationship for his kids. Unfortunately, the bar is so fucking low that we think as long as a husband earns a paycheck to support the family and doesn’t physically hurt anyone, he’s a good man.

OP, I can only imagine how hard it’s going to be to leave. Maybe consider if it’s worth salvaging with counseling first. But know that you and your children deserve so much better!

If you can’t give compassion and empathy, don’t post. Your words are cruel and untrue. She’s not murdering a baby, she’s terminating the development of an embryo. The kindest thing she can do for her entire family is to get an abortion. It’s a huge sacrifice, but she knows her situation and knows adding another child would be too much of a strain. She’s an amazing mother for making this difficult choice, while prioritizing her two children.

I also used a fertility awareness method in the past and found the Temp Drop helpful. It’s good for moms who are up in the night because that can throw off your morning temp. Instead the Temp Drop does an average throughout the night, so it’s more accurate when you have wake ups. I paired it with the app Chart Neo, which helped me keep track of my cervical mucus, temp (automatically synced with the Temp Drop), etc. We used condoms anytime I was near my fertile window. Once I confirmed ovulation already happened, and we were at least several days post-ovulation, I felt comfortable skipping condoms.

Overall, it helped me get pregnant when I wanted to and avoid it otherwise. But I had a pretty regular cycle, combined it with condoms, and was ok with an unplanned pregnancy if it happened. Then my husband had a vasectomy when I was about 10 weeks pp after our second. Because we were done having kids, we never skipped condoms until after his post-vasectomy results confirmed we were in the clear.

OP, I’d recommend combining non-hormonal options if that’s what you’re looking for. Doubling up on a fertility awareness method plus condoms would be very effective. I also highly recommend a vasectomy once you’re done with kids. And get the post-vasectomy check done at 3 months! I’ll also be reminding my husband to do a yearly check too.

How many men could you have possibly dated that you feel you can generalize this to all/most men? It sounds like your description is based on your specific ex/exes. I get where the man-hating comes from, but truly there are good men out there. My husband is a wonderful person and partner. Sex is great and he prioritizes my experience first. He’s never boring, follows through on promises, never pretended to be someone he’s not. He has good personal hygiene and contributes to a clean home. He’s an amazing father and so sweet and gentle with our babies. He loves to come up with different things to cook and recently got on a sourdough kick. Doesn’t tell me what to wear, doesn’t lie, dresses well. All these things seem like a description of one awful ex (or an amalgamation of exes).

To answer your question, I “bother” with my man because he genuinely is my perfect life partner. My entire life is better because of him and I cannot imagine going through each day without him or with anyone else. That’s what you look for in a partner, if you’re interested in sharing your life. Don’t settle for less. Be picky when dating and ditch the red flag men.