u/aikidharm

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What’s the point of this comment? A well loved dude died, and people are still sad about that. It happens sometimes when humans die, you know.

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Go back to gooning over your weird anime girls that look like children.

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Please use your own words, or learn how to hide chatGPTs speech patterns better.

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You’re like this because you have untreated ADHD and no coping skills. You are clearly severe if this is happening, so are you unable to get treatment for some reason? I am not intending to be mean, truly. The answer just seems obvious to me.

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You need to be screened for BPD. I developed it from abuse and you sound just like I used to be.

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This fucking sucks, I really detest these people.

I have POTS, a histamine intolerance (way more common than actual MCAS, so I am always suspect of these people), hypermobility spectrum disorder (not all hypermobility is EDS folks, but don’t tell them that!), and just general dysautonomia.

When I was six, I got an infection that led to encephalitis that the doctors did not catch, and so I was only given supportive care while my body struggled to survive. I ended up with PANDAS, and the complications have haunted me for my entire life so far and that’s a big part of my physical issues.

COVID made those so much worse that I had to quit my job and switch gears because my body could not handle it anymore. I was devastated. Just fucking devastated. There were times when my pain flare ups were so bad I needed to use a cane, which I refused to do because, honestly, I was afraid of being judged because of people like this. I am still embarrassed when I have to tell someone I have POTS, and so I just say dysautonomia because fewer people have heard that term.

I also have BPD and neurodivergence (which is different, the former is a pathology and the latter a developmental condition), too. So that only makes me cringe more.

When I was born I was adopted out privately to a very conservative Christian couple who raised me in an abusive religious cult I literally had to escape from when I turned 18. My mother had, at that point, physically abused me daily for almost 15 years. I was broken shell of a person for many years and I am shocked I did not end up homeless or dead. I also experienced the typical prolonged abuse cycle that abuse victims tend to unconsciously seek out so I had a super domestically abusive relationship from 20 to 25. I had to physically escape that too.

I got into therapy, got diagnosed with BPD and CPTSD due to the prolonged abuse, and then later with ADHD. I worked my absolute ass off to recover from BPD. And it worked. I’ve been in remission from BPD for nearly ten years. I’m in trauma therapy for the CPTSD and it’s also working. I will be on psych meds for the rest of my life. But I’m ok with that, because I have a good job, a good man, good friends, a loving family (now), and my career that is taking me places.

But when I see people like this, with the conditions I have worked to tirelessly to heal, and still work to heal, some of which I will be stuck mitigating forever, it just makes me want to scream. The amount of bullshit is nauseating from these people is nauseating and patients with these issues I’ve mentioned have to become ruthless in their pursuit for healing.

There is already so much stigma behind some of these things, and I can’t help but seethe with loathing knowing these fuckers are making my life even harder.

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She’d probably find you gross, too, based on your comments. I know I do.

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This is why it’s getting resolved, because they spoke up.

I work in supply chain, with both small and large companies. I am extremely well educated in terms of service agreements and contract negotiations, as well as internal procurement softwares and processes.

It has been shocking to see so many people lash out at these vendors, act as if they could just be more patient, or are trying to get some sort of clout out of this (how???).

These are humans who presented the organizers with their payment terms. And yes, often there are internal payment hiccups that can keep payments from getting processed in a timely manner (particular if the vendor is new within a payment system such as tradeshift), and is often no one’s fault. What does become fault is a lack of urgency to resolve, which is what it seems these vendors were feeling.

They absolutely did the right thing, and by doing so gave the organizers a chance to show they were indeed simply struggling with urgency, not unable to pay or deliberately withholding.

Now we can all move on.

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The last paragraph was the point. It’s not a real suggestion, it’s a device to show the flaws behind the sentiment.

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She…beefed with a literal child?

I’m not actually surprised. Huh.

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Body checking. :-/

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Considering the fact that shes not using “freak” affectionately, but rather accusatorially, in that song makes me feel like this wouldn’t be something we’d want to be called.

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Learned from the best haha. Fucking love Tate, man. Such a powerhouse of talent and grace.

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Absolutely gagged, 100%.

It just flows perfectly.

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You do realize that when you post about an event, you’re creating discussion around the event and not all comments are talking about you or to you?

I wish you all the best, but I don’t have time to teach you how Reddit and public forums work.

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I’m not sure why my comment triggered such a rude response from you.

This is the powerpopgirls subreddit, not a Swift subreddit. I am not required to glaze her to be here lol

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This is a one off honor, just like Busta’s and Ricky Martin’s from last year. There’s nothing wrong with it, but she didn’t “compete” against anyone, so she didn’t “win out”, she was honored for her work.

Congrats to her, sure, but this was not a competition. It’s like an honorary diploma- you didn’t actually have to graduate.

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What the fuck?

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“Don’t let it stop you from having kids”

“I love my kids but I wish they didn’t have me as a mum”

“I had so much post partum rage and still do”

“I am consistently in my head over analyzing how much my toddler is reacting to me and I feel he hates me”

I…don’t think OP needs to be taking advice from you, and I don’t think you are in a position to encourage them. I do not intend ti me mean, but this comment does not reflect a stable mother.

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What you’re doing here is animal abuse. Why are you not helping? Do you not have any delivery services where you live?

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Sure, but I’m also allowed to determine as a non-black person whether or not I believe her and whether or not I can be comfortable as a human with her explanation.

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It’s Roman Polansky, so my bet is surrogate. He’s already known for his connections with Israeli organ donation companies. It’s not a stretch to think he’d be able to easily source a surrogate, probably for a much smaller price point than the average person.

(This is not a comment on Roman’s politics. It’s objective information, and I have no idea what is politics are.)

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Yes, absolutely. That’s your only real way to know.

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I have zero financial privilege and a Groupon account lol

But go off