u/bradbonez

I’m sorry no one has responded to you yet. This is definitely abuse. From this perspective, she’s got mental issues. A lot of the way people treat YOU, is just how they feel about themselves. A lot of the time when you “love” an abuser, it’s because you think you’re loving a version of yourself you think is unloveable (which is not true because you obviously don’t act the same). OR you stay stuck in an abusive relationship/friendship out of pity and feeling morally obligated to be there for them. Here’s the thing, no one in this world is responsible for anyone unless they are a parent or legal guardian of a child. So ask yourself? Was she your child? No. You are not responsible for anything she does. She used you as a backboard to bounce all her attacks, frustrations, outbursts, and insecurities off of. It was definitely abuse, and you have to live with finding yourself again. It’s not okay how people treat other people, but it’s reality. I know you said you have a girlfriend, but it takes some time to heal the inner self from this stuff. Just make sure you have 30 mins to an hour each day with yourself and only yourself. Let things out, say it out loud what hurts, cry about it, go eat a candy bar, meditate, journal, do whatever it is that gives you some peace. A baseline. When you feel that baseline more and more in your day that’s not in that 30 min - 1 hr period, you’re getting better. The less you feel it, the more you need to start looking at the conditions and people in your life. Find the source, and cut off the dead weight that’s dragging you down so you can keep growing. VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT: this is not a linear concept. Healing can be all over the place. Someone doesn’t have to die for you to feel grief. Some trauma can cause you to feel like you died or the person once inside of the abuser has died. Give yourself some grace. It’s okay if you’re not getting better as quick as you want or you backslide. It’s okay to not color in between the lines. Take care of yourself. If you don’t do it for yourself, think of taking care of the little child you once were. Take care of that little one. 🫂

Haha, you’re always welcome 🫂 thank you my fellow avocado friend

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How it’s looking 😌‼️

So beautiful 🥺

Thank you for your help!

How long have you had the job for? It’s good to definitely dive into this. Just slowly take like a solid 5-10 minutes everyday to let it all out. It’s just like anything else in life, just because you don’t see it or hear it or witness it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I’ve always known I needed a high op tempo in the workplace because it helps me. I also know that being dependent on a job can cause a lot of issues for you if you have conflicts at work, don’t get your way, have to let others take the lead because they need “experience,” whatever the case. Being dependent on work can make you vulnerable in other areas, and the longer you ignore everything that hurts you, the more time it essentially has to build back up in a way that feels “stronger” than it was before. But in all reality, it’s just that what normally hurt you (but you got used to) hasn’t been your norm recently, so it’ll feel like it hurts more. You just have to be mindful with yourself that WHEN the lows come (they will come), it doesn’t mean what you’re doing doesn’t help you. It just means you will have to sit down and handle that later to work through it. It may never go away- and that’s okay. So long as you understand our emotions are just part of life, but we can always keep moving no matter what.

Unfortunately, I lost them both. No progress after 3 weeks. I will say the fungi dissipated, but there was no growth. I did have success with one seedling, and decided to plant others after reluctantly letting my first seeds go.

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This is honestly a disgusting comment. How about you focus on the souls of the children and women abused finding God through His Grace? How about you pray that the pain they endured was able to be tuned out in their last moment? How about you pray that while grown men sodomized babies and used them for oral sex, God took them swiftly and comforted them through the surgeries they endured and the pain they will endure for the rest of their lives, IF THEY LIVED? Your focus on such an evil entity is insane to me when thousands have suffered. 1 John 5:16 mentions a SIN THAT LEADS TO DEATH, implying that whereas there is no sin that is unforgivable, committing a sin with a permanent intent to rebel without repentance will lead to their sure death. At that point, human intervention and prayer is not effective, their heart is hardened. If you truly choose to SHARE praying for the wicked before the tortured, slaughtered, raped, and abused… it’s sickening. God says to pray for your enemies, pray for them to face the consequences for their actions, feel the harm they caused, and turn to God- not to get on Reddit and condone sending prayers to Trump because you feel conflicted on your political views and are projecting that through who you harbored support for. It’s pretty evident you were on the wrong side of things from the get-go even combining politics and prayers. God’s Law is above all and way about your political party. Pray for yourself. You need clarity for sure. Your train of thought is truly dismembered if this is the conclusion you have drawn. I’ve been praying and crying for the children in this world, heart broken, pleading God to heal them and to protect them- not once even wasting a second to pray for Trump or even the opposite of conjuring evil up against him. Disgusting.

Only 145k?!

Mmmm okay okay. Thank you. I will do more research and update if all is well! 🙏🏽

That’s what I did!!! 🫂♥️ I also have other seeds growing. I just didn’t want to give up on the OGs. Just to make sure, if it is “root rot” does that contaminate the soil?? If my OGs don’t grow, can I put the younger seeds in the same soil or I need to full on replace it all?

Thank you. I feel like a 5 year old would have known better. Are avocados resilient enough to come back under better conditions? Should I cut the brown/black off?

:/ dang. I changed the water every 3-5 days, so maybe I should’ve done it everyday? Well, I just went ahead and potted it. Don’t wanna give up, but I’ll send an update if it lives. If not, you jinxed it! Thank you for your time

Lmaooo

Get more cameras and lock up the paper towels. Booby trap the room

Dolphin

Whoops, sorry. Thank you

Both will go to hell

I should also add you cannot rely on YOURSELF and YOUR capabilities. All is done through God. I was always thinking me, me, me, me. What do I need to do? What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I just believe? And then, yeah. I don’t know when or where it exactly hit. I just kept going to church. I surrounded myself with believers and the word. I started talking to Him every day, in the car on the way to work, anytime I got angry, anytime I felt empty- and then He just stayed. It’s like a foot in the door you can never truly close. You can walk away, ignore it, but He’s going to be there. There were multiple nights of crying to God, pleading for the kind of faith others had. There were multiple nights I started prayers with “If You’re really there…” There were so many times I felt like my soul was empty and I would just die and turn into dirt one day. He’s there. He just knows you won’t settle for a smooth plane ride. It looks like you need some turbulence like I did lol. Some big, but little things that truly started to help me though: -give your worries up to God. If you’re stressing about something, breathe and say, “you got it, Lord. I give it to you. Carry me through this.” -talk to Him instead of yourself (OUT LOUD) -talk to Him every day (I like to tell Him jokes) -laugh when you’re angry (spill the tea to God) -pray at night about anything and everything that day, even if it’s just rambling -read the Bible. Get the Holy Bible app. A verse a day, know what book it comes from, what’s the context, who wrote it, what’s the message, how can you apply it (10 minutes a day)

Try it. I’m making a Bible study group if you’d like to join. Dm me! It’s just myself and a couple friends right now.

I struggled with this, and sometimes still struggle with the fear that my faith is not as real as I’d like it to be. I saw the way other people have faith, and, even though it’s a sin, I had envy. I wanted that kind of faith for myself. If it comes down to belief for you, ask yourself about all the things you do believe blindly that you have not confirmed yourself. I know gravity exists, and I did the math in school to test the seconds and identify how long it takes something to fall from the roof, but I didn’t even try to test that equation to its limits. I look at the stars and believe they are made of burning gases- but I can’t confirm it. I believe that hurricanes spin clockwise in the Southern hemisphere, but I’ve never seen it. We oftentimes believe a lot of things that we haven’t seen for ourselves. I took that and ran with it essentially. If I could believe so many things without experiencing and seeing it with my own eyes, what was stopping me from immersing myself in something that meant all-or-nothing salvation for my soul or eternal damnation to prove the truth to myself? I hope this helps. It didn’t solve everything for me automatically, of course. I started immersing myself. Asking questions. Raising my hands in worship. Dedicating myself to God and using that fear of eternal damnation to motivate my drive to understand God and seek the truth. The fear eventually turned into a craving. I just want to walk with Him at all times. Laugh with Him. Love others with Him. Share every second with Him and be a God-fearing, obedient daughter. You can truly go into the weeds and rabbit holes of the Bible and Christianity. It’s actually insane once you realize how LITTLE you know. Even seeing how little I knew opened my eyes as to why I lacked faith. Once I learned more and more, I was amazed at how I even had faith before without knowing how amazing He actually is. How can you believe in God truly if you don’t take the time to understand Him and what His will is? God wants you to understand. If you’re not optimizing your relationship with God, He will surely not let you settle. He’s there, but you have to walk with Him. If anything, RUN WITH HIM! Faith comes easier to some. Some have to work harder for it. Dig!!! You’ll find salvation much more precious than gold.

If you’re still on this app, I’m in 2026 and absolutely blown away by your responses. It’s very inspiring, and I want to thank you for your insight. You both know a lot more than I, but the way YOU communicated was extremely amazing to read through and almost felt like I was watching in real-time. Not rude or nasty, just the most eloquent way to express your beliefs and understanding. I love how you said you’re not omniscient. It’s true. None of us are, and that’s so important to internalize and keep at the forefront of our perspectives. Oftentimes we overlook our convictions and make it define our relationship with God and how strong it is, and it truly does come off as pride. It no longer is an effort to get closer to God and be ever-present with Him, but just an objective to be right or reach an unachievable state of being “all-knowing.” Even in your argument, pride didn’t emanate through your responses. Really gave me faith in humanity, truly. God bless you. This is amazing.