u/bubblespinky

Right. I was so nervous watching their wedding, because not introducing your kids until you're sure someone is sticking around is kind of a cardinal rule of dating as a single parent. Can you imagine if he had said no at the altar, how devastating that would be for the kid? TBH, it's kind of gross on the producers' part to exploit this kind of thing, too.

This. I'm a single mom, and there's no way I would bring my kids into something like this.

Yeah, this really pissed me off, because I'm the pods when he made her cookies, I was like, ooooh, I like this man! So I was really rooting for them. But fuck no, you're not going to make her move her and her child's entire life, make the child change schools and be further from her dad... just because your selfish ass doesn't feel like moving out of the city?! NOPE. Throw out the whole man, Amber. You and your kid deserve better.

And why am I not surprised that Alex is the type of dude who is not only grossed out by period sex, but is willfully ignorant about the basics of the menstrual cycle?

Throw the whole man out. 😒

TBH, any type of relationship with a married or single parent of young kids can be challenging to say the least. Particularly children that age need their parents in a way that may be difficult to fathom if you haven't experienced it firsthand.

I understand that you feel your needs aren't being met, and it's perfectly valid to feel that way. It may be worth considering, depending on your level of attachment, backing off, or continuing with managed expectations, with the possibility of reconnecting/intensifying when the kids are a bit older. It is a tough situation, but it's helpful to remember that it's also likely tough for them, feeling torn between meeting their needs and those of a partner, and meeting their children's needs, as well as just spending time with them and enjoying them. This is the most cliched thing ever and I usually roll my eyes when people say it to me, but it's true that they are only this little once and missing time with them, even to spend time with people we truly value, can be very difficult.

Definitely agree with reframing it as a boundary rather than making suggestions.

I found it pithy 😁

When I was in grad school for my linguistics degree, for my grammaticalization class we read an article about how time is a construct (I can't for the life of me remember how it was relevant to the class, but it definitely was) and it blew all of our minds. We would randomly bring it up later in the semester and honestly, the people I've kept in touch with from the class, we still sometimes mention it. 😂

Thank you! That's very helpful 😊

If you don't mind me asking, what's the difference between a comet and an LDR? Sorry if I'm hijacking!

I personally don't see being in shape as equating to taking care of oneself, or even as the first indication I think of. There are so many other factors that show this: good hygiene, dressing well (which doesn't have to mean suit and tie- casual is great as long as it's not sloppy), self-awareness and taking care of your mental health, etc.

Given the choice between a super muscular dude who spends so much time at the gym he has no time for me and a guy with a dad bod who is emotionally intelligent, attentive, and treats me well, I will pick the guy with the dad bod every time. 🤷🏼‍♀️

The prefrontal cortex doesn't stop developing until around your mid-twenties. So when they met, his brain was fully developed and hers was not. Combined with her being in a vulnerable position because she was a teenage single mother of a young child whose husband ditched her? Yeah, that's kinda predatory, ngl

Don't know about you, but I'm gonna blame the person whose brain was fully developed at the time and should have known better. That's the 30 yo.

Thank you for the insight!

This is helpful- thank you!!

Super excited to fly tomorrow! 😑

Yep, I think that's exactly the goal. And the billionaire tech doofus gets to pocket part of that extra cost.

For the women who think they're safe, ask them to look at the SAVE act, which would require voters to present a birth certificate that matches their current ID in order to vote. So married women who changed their last name would need to change it back.

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Here's the pattern mug/cup cozy.

Oh, this is so gorgeous! I love the one white daisy. To me, it's a subtle message that it's okay to be different. 🥰 If someone gave this to my baby, I'm pretty sure I would cry! 🥹

If I were you, I'd document when she takes or throws away your stuff. She has no right to do that, and demonstrating that you are prepared to seek legal action may deter her from doing it again (even if it never actually comes to that). I'm sorry your grandma is so awful. Based on your previous posts, I hope that you're able to find a better living situation soon.

Also, this blanket is gorgeous and please don't let her stop you from finishing it after all the effort and resources you've put into it. She's just a jealous, bitter old lady and, being a narcissist, she surrounds herself with "yes people" who go along with whatever she thinks.

Wishing you the best in finishing up your blanket, and in healing from the horrible family members in your life. ❤️

This is gorgeous! 😍 I need the waffle stitch in my life, but woo boy, a blanket is a big commitment. I'm a hat and amigurumi kinda gal 😂 But you've convinced me that I gotta try this once I've finished making all my holiday gift projects. 😊

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1781744675/no-sew-mini-stress-ball-buddies-star

I'm planning to make something crochet for all my kids'teachers this year for holiday gifts. 😁 Next project is finding some fidget toy patterns to make for his OT!