u/eveningoranges

So do we think she's enforcing a disgusting ideal of bouncing back unnaturally fast, or is she just a bad mother for caring about looks & career so soon after having a baby? Which misogynistic narrative should we push on this woman?

Btw the Epstein files are still a thing

Skinny person who undereats isn’t often healthy. But the modern diet culture doesn’t care - you just need to be skinny and somehow everyone thinks you’re this disclipined person making smart choices, while the chubbier one who genuinely cares and tries is  lazy. It’s just plain fat fobia.

I know, I feel the same. The whole clothing industry is to blame - everything is mass manufactured to look good a brief while when a model is showcasing a piece of clothing in a webstore. It’s all about buy buy buy, the prices are just kept low enough so that when you’re dissatisfied you don’t even bother to return the item. 

Yes, it’s annoying not to be able to find clothing that fits you, but this isn’t a problem unique to skinny people. Calling the issue ”vanity sizing” makes it sound like larger people’s vanity is a problem here, when in reality it’s just that the skinny people are more rare these days so the clothing companies don’t feel a need to cater to them.

I think what op is saying is that if the general public is larger, then by default making sizes larger you make them more accessible to the general public. So it’s not about ”vanity” or inclusivity, it’s just that the clothing companies can still make a standard set of sizes and get the same amount of sales. Creating a couple of truly extra small sizes might be a financial gamble from their perspective.

Even if that’s true, reposting someone’s photo like this is bullying. You don’t have to use their photo to prove a point. Especially if it was someone with an ED (I’m only commenting this hypothetically) a repost like this can do quite a bit of damage. We should try to act civil here.

This message is straight up bullying and you should feel ashamed

I truly agree with most of the comment but reading a book in the living room is not ”insecure-person-stuff” lol

I repeat myself once more and I hope you understand it now: when communication doesn't work, you get help (sexual therapy, maybe) or exit. "Not letting him cum" is likely not the answer to the issue these people are facing. You seem to be the type of person who just wants to punish the dude, when op seems to want an actual solution for their problem and save the relationship. Again, just to be sure, I'll also repeat that op shouldn't be having sex if she doesn't want it.

Again, this comes down to communication and underlying motivations. If you don't feel like having sex because your partner isn't satisfying you, you obviously shouldn't do it, and you can communicate this is in a polite way. If you feel like you want to snap your partner by "not letting them cum", chances are that there's some twisted shit going on and you should probably leave or get couple's counseling. Either way, I agree that one shouldn't be having sex when they don't want to.

I agree on that I feel bad for op and I hope she feels comfortable enough to also explicitly say that she wants him to go harder and use more pressure. I think after 3 years – if he really IS trying – it's safe to say that they either lack in communication or he truly just is bad at the one thing that gets op off. Which honestly sucks for everyone, but especially for op.

Girl, you really are here trying to misinterpret, aren't you? If op doesn't want sex because of this issue, they 100% shouldn't be having sex. Don't come at me with this nonsense. I'm pushing communication, not forced intercourse for Christ's sake.

That's when you exit instead of punishing your SO who likely already feels bad for not making you cum. This doesn't come down to "Oh, she should just accept the situation! He's a good man." But rather: if it doesn't work, LEAVE before it gets insanely toxic.

Oh no

And so is extortion? Seriously, these comments make me believe that people are living through hell in their relationships. Just get out if you feel like you're in a sexual war with your man.

No, but because long term partners should be partners who solve problems together. The minute you start antagonizing your SO and laying down ultimatums you could just break up instead.

Yeah that sounds like the seed of a healthy sex life but what ever

Sounds much more like a dynamic issue to me. Op said it herself, the dude is trying.  It’s pretty easy to blame the man since we know how they can be but in this instance it doesn’t sound like op is dealing with some selfish bum.

Is lack of trying & motivation the problem though?

Girl agreed, but how about if we didn’t call small titty people prepubescent 🍒

Yeah, blood starts flowing and so on, but muscle takes time. The beginner pump can be a real confidence boost and give perkiness so I really don’t want to discourage op from building a phatty.

You’re not gonna build your glutes for this summer, it’s going to take time. Sounds like you’ve got anterior pelvic tilt and would benefit from strenghtening both your core and booty! Try some hip bridges with a resistance band.

Variety, baby. Generally it’s better to eat a bit of everything.

He’s a bad guy. Genuinly bad, the kind that probably lacks the capacity to even understand how subhuman his actions are. The whole thing is so wrong but there are details that make this extra infuriating, such as the age difference and the slap. Please don’t stay in contact with this person! I’m so sorry you had to go through this and especially as a first experience.

girls rule