u/flyboy151

Lol followee with "why are you so angry all the time??"

This is ridiculous. I have to just sit here while she explodes at me and blames me and pretend that I'm okay? What about me? When do I get to feel upset about anything ever? When do I get to not be perfect?

And in the end you're just teaching her that she gets what she wants by throwing a temper tantrum like a 6 year old. The only correct way to respond to an irrational emotional breakdown is disengagement. A time out. Except the problem is she's not 6 years old, so she can accuse me of "abandoning" her and she can threaten all sorts of ridiculous things like suicide if I don't give her 110% all the time ever time.

So I'm just fucked. My opinions don't matter, my emotions don't matter, I'm sorry honey, it was wrong of me to be an independent being, let me go back to appeasing you forever, please don't kill yourself.

From the depression angle he sounds like me. Sometimes you don't want to be helped because the best case scenario for you is still shit compared to what you want out of reality.

I don't have advice but I can at least tell you I understand. Some people really just can not be helped in the end. Most stories on this planet do not have happy endings, but if you can find a way to accept that very hard fact then at least it will be easier overall.

No, it's a publicized buzz phrase thrown around by celebrity talk show hosts for viewership. Do not perpetuate it.

Sounds like classic borderline personality disorder. He's incapable of feeling anything outside of himself or perceiving anything externally because he lacks the mental capacity to control his emotions. You're going to be on perpetual damage control with this man for as long as you are with him.

And nearly every single one of those are banned or inactive. So it's a useless list.

Both of my posts were deleted from r/relationships for "arguing".

Oh, okay, I'll just blindly accept shitty "advice" without ever having my own viewpoint. Sounds pretty fucking familiar.

Not "No", but when we conflict over something, I've resolved to just flatly say "I disagree" instead of perpetuating an argument.

I swear to god nothing triggers her more than that phrase. Every time I say it she FLIPS SHIT, and goes off on how I "never agree with her" (as we stand in a home we literally both agreed on living in), and how I "don't care about her"

I have since learned to never disagree with her ever again. Silly me.

ITT: people who don't know what friendship is.

It also takes two seconds to just type "hey what's up" to someone.

r/legaladvice is your next step.

Lol, you're lucky the cops were an option.

I have no identity to begin with. I've spent my entire life alone, stuck in my head with all these thoughts I'm so fucking sick of thinking. I'd rather live in someone else's thoughts.

She runs the house because I just suck at it. Constantly make a mess even when I try to clean. It's as simple as that really.

Edit: lol, you fuckers don't get it. She doesn't LET me do the work. Me fucking it up constantly just angers her.

I would literally rather kill myself than be alone. There is no peace in "owning myself". There's nothing to own. Doesn't help that she's the same way too.

Yeah. Ridiculous.

Thanks. No children. I don't want to be with my family, I hate them all. I don't really have a choice since I'm as fucked up as she is in different ways. She's all I have left in the world. As much as I hate her sometimes I need her to exist so I still exist.

We have no friends and we're estranged from the family. Nobody knows where we live. Besides how can we trust anyone else not to call the cops and ruin our life?
There's no protection against her. We're entirely on our own and the system is against us. We eloped to make this work and it socially killes both of us.

It doesnt matter what I think when I spend every second of my non-working life with her.

Let's just say that getting her involved in the system is not an option.

Protip: if you're the first one to bring the sex into it, then you are the sexist.

I literally have to or else "you don't love me and I'll just kill myself"

My life situation leaves me no other choice. It's either be together or we both kill ourselves.

Sorry forgot to change the colours. She's the first one that sends a message and it alternates after every (blurred) name.

I'm just trying to apologize and she refuses to drop it. This happens constantly in our life.

No dude. I went on a one year no-contact break with her and I got even worse. I literally tried to kill myself several times before I met her(that's how we met). I'm pretty much only here to serve her no matter how much I hate her and myself for it.