u/Flybri08

Yep exactly.. I’ve tried all the above but none of those fix the root cause of why I’m depressed in the first place. Doctors are so quick to put you on meds when you’re feeling down rather than figure out why you’re feeling down and make the appropriate treatment plan.

Well there’s always new meds coming out and maybe you’ll eventually find one that works for you hopefully then. Also this might sound cliche but every morning say 5 things you’re grateful for in your life. Positive affirmations have a way rewiring negative thought patterns that often contribute to depression. I’m a very pessimistic person though so I know how hard it is to see the positive in life situations. I’ve been over saturated with emotions lately with everything hitting me all at once. Staying busy at work seems to help me though on top of regular exercise and feeling good about how I look. Also my daughter has most likely saved my life with the gift of her coming into this world.

Well I will say this. If you can try and taper off any meds you’re currently on. Many people who’ve taken antidepressants report anhedonia which is weird cause they’re supposed to do the exact opposite for your brain.

It can only get better when you address the root cause of your depression. It’s not gonna get better just waiting around for things to get better. Some people aren’t gonna like me saying this but medication isn’t always the answer for depression. When I was on anti depressants it actually made me worse with all the side effects. Never felt like myself on meds. Sometimes just building new connections with people romantic or platonic can help. Also working out has been proven to rewire your brains chemistry. But the only times I really feel the benefits from working out is when I do a hard and vigorous workout. Also consistency with getting your workouts in every week is important. Is it easy? Nope. But it’s a good starting point. Also look into tms therapy, it’s been proven to help people with treatment resistant depression.

What’s the name of this place so I know to avoid it?

No not a pussy. I saw you must of deleted that comment but idgaf. If you knew the hell I’ve gone through in the last few years you’d be surprised that I’m even still here. And don’t fucking act like you’ve never cried before.

I think it really depends on the male. Me personally I’m a pretty built guy and tall, so unless someone has a weapon that I see on them, I’m generally not concerned about my safety. Cause I know I can easily defend myself against an unarmed person. Also I’ve already been through hell in life, really not much that scares me these days.

The part of me that wants to be able to see my daughter everyday says yes. But the logical part of my brain says no. After she ripped my heart out of my chest, refused to reconcile even after our daughter was born. Emasculated me and made me feel inadequate. Moved on to someone new pretty fast and broke my heart all over again. Then buried me financially in court with child support even though she’s the one that left and I never abused her or cheated on her, simply just wasn’t enough for her to stay. the domino affect it’s had on all my other relationships in my life with family, friends and potential new partners as well as health issues I’ve been having with my heart now. Too many things im having a hard time moving past still 3 years later now. Also I know even if the impossible did happen and we someone ended up together again, there would be too much resentment from past bullshit and it would ultimately just fail again.

You’re most likely not ugly like you think you are. Otherwise you wouldn’t be getting matches. Online dating is all about looks pretty much initially. So if you were ugly you wouldn’t t be getting matches let alone having those matches lead to sex. Maybe you just need to hold off on the sex for awhile with the next guy you meet. Cause that’s not uncommon for a guy to vanish after he gets sex with a woman too soon and easily.

I feel this for sure…my depression from my last heartbreak literally pushed any remaining friendships I had away. I’m fortunate to have my 2 year old baby girl though still. That’s the one good thing that came out of my last relationship. Besides that I have no support system and the girl I was talking to most recently just suddenly pulled away and haven’t heard from her in days. So yeah I feel like I have no one. Trying to meet someone new seems impossible lately.

Well I know life gets heavy at times cause I’m currently going through it myself. The world will be a worse place without you though. If you ever wanna talk dm me

Yep I can’t tell you how many times I tell people this about social media. It’s pure cancer for the dating world. Dating apps were supposed to make meeting people easier but it actually has made it harder for a lot of men especially.

You can’t base your whole worth on whether you’re married or not. All the “red flags” are really not red flags for a majority of people lol. Also consider yourself lucky you didn’t marry her. According to statistics 50% of all marriages end in divorce, roughly 80% initiated by the woman. You most likely dodged a divorce which would have screwed your life up even more most likely. Any woman who tells you you were. Backup option doesn’t respect you and would have most likely cheated or divorced you anyways. I’m 37 and never been married. Have a beautiful daughter though and have been with plenty of women in my life. Also stop comparing your life to others. Comparison is the thief of joy and we’re all on our timeline. You’re still pretty young and have a lot of time. Men’s sexual market value tends to increase after age 30 anyways especially if you have everything else in your life in order which sounds like you do.