u/ashmkim

If she specifically told you she wanted you to have it, then sharing it with your siblings would be going against her dying wishes. If they can’t understand why you aren’t comfortable doing that, then they aren’t REAL FAMILY; they just share DNA. Respect her last wishes and hope that your siblings can understand and respect your choice to honor your grandmother

Yikes, YOU are such a colossal AH. Please do her a favor and break up. Ideally let her know you cheated though.

This must be why you are dating women in their twenties. You have the emotional maturity of a salted slug.

Like a lot of others have said here, eating your foods in “order” (veg, protein, then carbs) can make a huge difference. Always pairing carbs with a fiber or protein helps me tremendously to avoid spikes. And moving after eating (walks after meals).

I am not at all dogmatic about my reduction of carbs (in fact I’m still quite liberal with them), but when I think about it more as prioritizing veggies and meat, it feels less restrictive? I focus more on my goal of having more nutrient dense foods to nourish my body, than restricting my intake of carbs necessarily. Basically, trying a reframe on the way you view your diet, without a dogmatic or prescriptive “rule” to follow. Good luck!

Ok, but 99% of everything else I said still stands even if you don’t “believe” in love languages. It could still be a bid for connection 🙄

I also do believe that her choices need to have consequences. If you are going on a “fun” outing, she cannot go unless she gets dressed. She cannot have any treats, juices, fruit, etc, if she doesn’t brush her teeth. Things like this. And FOLLOW THROUGH.

Yes! Being playful is a wonderful way to get kids to cooperate!

This is a very important point.

Her love language might be acts of service and this is a bid for connection. I think being stern about it most of the time is appropriate, but sometimes it can really help to sit with her and take your time to do it sweetly. Love on her a bit while you’re doing it. And you can say something like, “sweetie, I love to pamper you and take care of you sometimes. And most of the time, it is very important for you to practice your independence. I want you to grow into an independent, strong young lady, and when I ask you to do things on your own, I’m only helping you to grow. I want what is best for you.” And I always told my daughter that I would help her if she’s REALLY tired or something, but she needs to communicate with me. She uses this VERY sparingly, but she knows I’m there for her if she really needs it. This has worked for me. When they’re little, they’re learning; and doing it EVERY time feels like a grind. You might find if you do it lovingly 1 out of 4 times, she will be much more agreeable to doing it on her own the other 3. She will ask for help less and less as she grows, and she will feel supported by you.

Little known fact: MiraLAX has been shown to actually create behavioral problems in some children. Do what you will with that.

There are lots of other options. We have settled into a routine of Begin Health prebiotics daily (formulated to help with constipation; may take about a month to start helping), chiropractic, and epsom salt baths. We also do abdominal massages, and magnesium spray on the feet. Oral magnesium and Vitamic C supplements can help to clean out as well.

I do agree, if she’s passing liquid stool, she may have a hard blockage. I would say it’s time for the suppository/enema to get that out. Then settle into a more aggressive routine for maintenance.

We have 1 mini for a 7 and 3.5 year old. It’s been mostly fine, but we did get a good deal on another mini we will gift the younger one for the holidays. I’ve never yearned for a full size. We love our mini!

The idea isn’t that tv is BAD. It’s that watching a lot of tv takes away from other, very important types of play. Imaginative play, messy play, art, etc. I think ideally you want to be well rounded about making sure your child CAN play independently without the instant gratification of tv. And yes, the content REALLY matters.

Being ascribed nefarious motives 🙌🏼 this one hits home!

NTA, dump him for sure. Really try to deep dive into how you ended up in a one sided relationship like this, so it doesn’t happen again.

We lived with my mom for a few months, then my MIL for a few months at the end of my pregnancy with our first child and the first few months of her life. It allowed us to save up for a down payment for our house. We closed and moved in to our home in May 2020 after living with parents for about 10-11months. We are happy and on our feet with a very reasonable mortgage. It sounds like you thought this through; a few months of saving can really help you get ahead. Good luck!

OMG what? Tell his ass to get a job and then maybe you’ll be more interested in getting down. It’s not attractive to be with a grown man who acts like a teenager and doesn’t DO HIS PART to support his family. This “man”gives me the ick so bad. Soft ESH because you’ve clearly been groomed to think this is ok (spoiler alert: it’s not) and he’s a huge AH over and over and over again!

This is all developmentally appropriate. Stay consistent, even (and especially) when it feels hopeless. You will come out the other side with a kid who trusts you to guide them through the world. High expectations and high support. Good luck!

Yes. My husband travels for work. So he will be fully gone for several days at a time. When he IS home though, he’s a super involved dad and pretty much wants to spend all this available time with them. He is wonderful. That said, he often doesn’t know the routine or what the kids are into at that time. I have a lot more patience, because I know that he tries his best.

Maybe try to remind him that your little one is only this little for a short while and expectations are different than they were with your son. Your 6 month old deserves a present father. You CAN manage without him. But maybe show him research about how important and beneficial it is for children to have 2 involved parents. This is so hard. Good luck!

Sorry, but I don’t think asking you to move your disruptive toddler away so the other kids can enjoy the story is “scolding” you. The librarian is just trying to protect the experience of everyone there and let you know the expectations. I don’t think you should take it this personally.

Ok, if the aunt is paying rent, then I do think your wording was extremely entitled. She doesn’t owe you childcare and if you would like her to help, you should be asking extremely kindly. Free childcare is like, such a huge privilege that begs at least a please and an ask (rather than a statement of your need). YTA or ESH, since your wife seems pretty irritating to deal with as well.

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Do you feel that your boyfriend will continue to love and respect you even if you do not get your belly button pierced?

My husband and I brought our 2 kiddos a couple of years ago and ever since then, I’ve said no way. It wasn’t even fun and cost a TON of money. We could have gotten a couple of tickets to Disneyland for what we spent on very little fun at the fair. It was a huge disappointment we won’t be doing again haha

Ok, then with this information you just shared, you absolutely are not mature enough to get your belly button pierced.

NTA. I think you were there, you know HOW he said it with the context and everything. This could go either way based on so many other, non-verbal factors. But if it made you uncomfortable, there’s probably a reason why. I’m not sure I would break up over it, but I would definitely watch closely for other red flags 🚩

Wait, NPD -BPD is a classic pairing? My dad is diagnosed schizoid and NPD, and I believe my mother is uBPD. This makes so much sense, but I can’t wait to look into this more